Simply Feminine � Surprising Insights from Men by Wonderly, Morgan (best novels for beginners .txt) 📕

Try an idea or two from the above list “Ways to Show Admiration for Your Man.” Journal your man’s reaction.

Part 2

Chapter 7

Feminine Attitudes Men Love

“Our generation is becoming so busy trying to prove that women can do what men can do that women are losing their uniqueness. Women weren’t created to do everything a man can do. They were created to do everything a man can’t.”

– Unknown

By design, this chapter reiterates some themes of what men need that were covered in the previous chapter, but from the viewpoint of how we women can meet those needs by being feminine.

Inner Beauty Multiplies Our Outer Beauty Tenfold

Although our outward appearances attract men initially, it’s our feminine attitudes that capture their hearts and make them commit to us, care for us, and protect us for a lifetime. Therefore, it stands to reason we should spend at least as much time or more on our inner beauty as we do on our outer beauty. A positive, happy inner attitude radiates beauty, whereas a negative, bitter attitude exudes an unappealing quality—even if we’re a raving beauty on the outside.

In this chapter, I cover the feminine personality traits that make us more appealing to men. As we incorporate these into our repertoire, these attitudes work to draw men closer. We sometimes delude ourselves into thinking that our view of ourselves and the world is “just how things are.” In reality, it is just a story we have bought into from influences of family, church, television, culture, and other sources. The truth is, we can choose a different, more empowering story, and this change in perspective can happen very quickly. The moment we see something in a new light; that wonderful aha! moment, we can change our lives forever. Pay close attention as we cover these feminine attitudes in detail because we never know when we will have that magical moment when we create a new, wonderful story for ourselves, and our friends start to ask, “What happened to you? You seem so different …”

Men Love Our Happiness

Men adore women who radiate happiness because seeing a woman who’s happy is one of their top sources of joy. And so making the woman happy makes a man feel purposeful in his relationship with her; keeping us happy is one of the ways men feel they can win with us. Our joy inspires them to provide, protect, and care for us. Often, a man will do something for his woman simply because he knows it makes her happy. He does this because his woman’s happiness makes him feel like a good, masculine man. And in return, when he does this, he feels masculine.

Unfortunately, when we are generally negative, sad, or angry, it takes away from our overall attractiveness. That is not to say we won’t have our moments when we feel unhappy or angry, but choosing to be happy and upbeat can make such a difference in the way we feel. Reality is whatever we make it. We can transform our lives from a painful struggle into a joyous journey simply by shifting to a positive mindset and seeing possibility in place of difficulty.

“You are the designer of your destiny; you are the author of your story.”

– Lisa Nichols, Author of No Matter What

One thing I did to help change my mindset was to stop watching the news with all its negative messages. For that matter, I stopped watching any TV or movies that were violent, tragic, or scary. Now, besides having more time, I feel much more optimistic!

If we choose to live as happy women, we must continually feed our minds positive messages. Our subconscious mind is like a computer that picks up information around us constantly. It doesn’t know the difference between what is real and what is imagined. If we think the TV doesn’t affect our beliefs and attitudes, it just means we are hopelessly shackled to it and in denial of its power over us.

Maintaining a cheerful mental attitude may also mean letting go of certain toxic, negative friends whose attitudes drain our energy and bring us down. No, we cannot change them, so we need to respectfully let them go instead of resenting them for bringing negative energy into our lives.

One way to understand the happiness that men adore is to think of a joyful moment in your life. Recall how your face radiated happiness, your voice sounded vibrant, and your eyes lit up. Take a mental snapshot of that moment because those happy moments are when you’re the most beautiful to men. We can bring this moment back whenever we want, just by remembering and getting into the feeling.

Tips to Becoming Happier:

Taking responsibility for ourselves is the first step to our happiness.

Others are not to blame for what’s wrong in our lives. We create our own reality through our thinking, words, conversations, and self-talk.

Once we realize that we create our own destiny, we have the power to change it.

Smile often. Besides melting men’s hearts, a smile is an instant face-lift.

Release anger, and forgive others often.

Meditate daily or practice yoga.

Move away from toxic, negative friends who are energy vampires.

Find a happiness example or coach—someone who is happy most of the time.

Start a gratitude journal and write what you’re grateful for every morning. It works like magic. Gratitude is the most direct way to happiness.

Practice reframing the past from a positive viewpoint. Let go of the old, negative story and create a new story that feels great.

Make a game of turning every lemon in life into lemonade.

Focus on bringing a smile to someone else’s face through kindness and warmth.

Make a list of exciting people, places, and activities to explore every day.

Set aside some time every day for relaxation and fun.

Be creative. Take a painting class, join a writers’ group, or enroll in a photography club.

Substitute negative TV shows and violent or scary movies with positive,