Episodes of The Chocolate Lover by Ria Tumimomor (cool books to read .txt) 📕

the girl… Well, a girl being lost in space with a lot older guy for two weeks… I am sure you can already imagine what has happened to that poor girl. However, since she went voluntarily with that guy the police only charged him with having indecent relationship with underage girl. They could not charge him with kidnapping because it was the girl who asked that guy to pick her up since she was running away from home.

We may say anything like what in the heck she see in that ugly older guy? Oh, by the way just for information… That guy edited his photo so he look more handsome (please teach me how to do that! (Kidding) and easy to lure his victim. Well, surely after meet him face to face that girl should wake up and hear the music, right? Nope. She went with him anyway. Since it is not his look that she wants then we could only assume this guy is sweet with words…

Many times we as an outsider saw unhealthy relationship because the guy cheated or violent with his girlfriend. But the girl just keeps holding on to the relationship. I suppose he really know how to sweep her over the heels. He controls them by keep on saying sweet words to them… It was his way to lure her in the first time (that and the fake photo making him look drop dead gorgeous). Then after she saw him for real he still manages to keep her stay with him. And may I add, not by force but simply by seducing her with more words to make her fly to the moon. She did not realize that her future already half ruin. The other half is depending on her family whether they will be able to support her and love her still.

It will not be easy to advise younger girl that THERE IS NO WAY A STRANGER WANTS TO GIVE EVERYTHING FOR FREE… And that we could not just spend the rest of our life consuming empty words for short term comfort. After all, can we say to ourselves that we are not going to be moved by appraising gentle words?

SEE AND LISTEN

People often said, you have to know how to listen instead of just hear… Or learn how to see rather than just watch…
I suppose those words means that we have to pay attention on our surrounding… or when people tell a story to you…or during the year of being a student.

Just think about it. You are in the class and you watch your teacher standing there and hear her explaining Math on the white board. What you did not see is your teacher is wearing a Band-Aid on her forehead and definitely did not listen to whatever she was explaining about…
So, when people I asked you like, “Hey, what’s on Mrs X’s forehead? And can you explain to me what she was talking about?” You could probably look at that person blankly as you have no idea what is it about…

Just the same like professional photographer saying to the model, “You look pretty but your eyes were empty on this photo…”
And you look at the photo and watch and thinking hard… I have not seen anything wrong with this photo… The model looks drop dead gorgeous… What’s about those eyes with empty staring? She is not dead…
That’s because we can not see it the real expression… They said, that when you are happy you do not have to show it with too overly wide smile stuck on your face. Your eyes will speak the word without need a single word or smile. Sure, we can say we have no experience with that kind of observation. WHICH is why we should be learning to see, right?

Your friend poured her broken heart story for almost 3 hours… If you do care, you will listen to every word she said and get a headache at home… While listening carefully and keep it in your memory, it sort of drain your energy… As your friend moving her negative thinking and energy through her story to you… But, if you bored and think 1 hour of listening is enough…you probably just hear her moaning, crying, whining, but have no memory whatsoever on whatever she told you. The good thing for you, you will be able to deny perfectly if other people ask about your friend’s story in detail. The bad news is, if your friend asked, “Do you remember him? The one I told you the other night?” And you just give that pretending blank expression, again… :D

Paying attention will allow you to absorb the information and processed it in our mind… I suppose by seeing more thoroughly or listening more carefully, we will be able to notice something different in the way people talk or walk, or see the beauty of the painting that others can’t seems to find it…

Yeah, need to say no more… It is a hard task and I do wish I will be able to do so… My ears usually start to block hearing things that makes me dizzy or bored or sleepy… Things that I do not understand will bore me to death… Which is a pity… I just shut myself to learn a lot more…

SEEK AND ASK AND FIND

I have a very close friend who always asking me words in English from Indonesian. Though I like being asked by her, sometimes I like to joke her around by asking, “You know… It would be easy if you just google them…” And as always she will reply, “Nahhh, it would be easier if I just ask you…”

My cousin also told me about her daughters who prefer asking her about the meaning of words in English rather than try to find it on dictionary… or even on the internet… If my cousin with irritated feeling asked her daughters why they are not trying to find it on their own they would say, “Oh come on, Mom… We do not have all day to open that thick dictionary to find the words… Asking you will get quicker result…”

I like being asked by my friend about some information as that will mean they trust that information from me. And they know I have the capability to give the right information to them. Even if I do not know to answer the question, I will immediately google for the answer on the internet. With that way, I will also know the answer from her question and so both of us will have that knowledge. I can use as a brainstorming for my thick head…
Anyway, as per the answer from my friend and my nieces, they find that asking to the right person will give them an answer in the easier way and of course quicker.

I have to agree with this. You know how irritating that is when you want to find information…let say about traveling…? You try to type the keywords and finally you type longer sentences to emphasize the information that you need… After a few hours and still no luck you will find yourself emotionally exhausted… And then, finally you give up and just ask randomly to anyone that you know… To your surprise, one of them knows the answer and give you information in details…in such a short time.

Of course, to people who used to find information by themselves this kind of action could be considered as lazy and just want to get it in easy way. I guess there is really no problem in that. I mean, if about traveling…those people probably just ask how to get this visa? How much is it going to cost? What should I prepare? What procedure that I should follow? I suppose people do not want to waste longer time by making mistakes and that’s why they would ask first.

For me, I am in between. For several things, I like to find the answer by myself. There is this satisfied feeling inside if I manage to get the answer by myself. Nobody help me. So, I could probably brag to anyone who ask…oh, is so easy! I could find the way and do it by myself. But another time, after long hours spent to look for the information and still failed to find it, I would ask anyone who can help me… And hopefully they would not mind me asking. Or just simply answered to me, find it yourself. I can manage to find it by myself so I am sure you will be able to. *Sobs*

So, anybody want to ask me about anything? Feel free to do so… I may have the answer or may not have one… And definitely can’t give you any if you asking me about recipes.

Sentimental values

Do you have old things that other people look at them as garbage but for you is a valuable treasure?
Not because the thing is worth million bucks or something…but the value behind that garbage thing makes you (including me) unable to let the thing go…

I have this doll, a Teddy Bear… It is so old, if I hold it too tight I think the doll will loose it’s hand immediately. But I love that doll. My Dad gave it to me when I was a kid, lying in the hospital. Feeling so sad because I stayed in the room where my parents were not allowed to be with me. So, if the visiting hour has passed I have to pass the night all by myself. My Dad gave me the doll so I would always remember that my parents were around.
That is why I decided to keep that doll up ‘till now. I was wondering where I can fix my Teddy …but have not found the place yet….

Some of us are a bit sentimental. And therefore we like to keep old stuffs just for the sentimental reason. Like me and my Teddy bear. Through things often we were reminded that people gave us that thing to express their love, or affection. Sometimes we need old clothes from people that has passed away to be reminded the good times that we have spent with them. Or perhaps bad moments, but who would want to remember bad times anyway?

Your parents maybe give you that old camera for your graduation. Every time you use it, you will remember them… Or your husband gave you that ugly necklace. It’s not a diamond or gold, but you keep it anyway. Because he gave it to you while both of you were still dating. Your son gave it a hideous tie. You wear it anyway and keep it, because that was a gift on Fathers Day. Your friend gave you a friendship ring when you both finished high school. So you can be friends forever…

Again, is not the nominal value of the stuff…but the memory that we try to hold on.

What can I say, I am that sentimental person ( or perhaps I just too lazy to clean up my drawer…)

p.s. this post is dedicated to my (once) handphone… A white sliding Nokia…able to produce beautiful picture like the one that I attached here… The only reason I have to let my dearest handphone go due to the screen problem. It often went dead for several hours…and I became unable to check any text message. The memorable moment was the handphone did not have any problem when I was about to sell it. The girl on the store keep