Episodes of The Chocolate Lover by Ria Tumimomor (cool books to read .txt) 📕

or almost categorized as shouting in public place… I think before we jump into a wild conclusion why people talking too loud…I will try to see it from myself..
I think I speak too loud while in the public place with my friends then the reasons are :
1. My surrounding is full with people talking loudly or the café realizing that me and my friends have been sitting there too long…therefore they started to play loud music…with high volume :D
While we all insisting to keep on talking…there would be no other way than to raise our voices as well…
2. When I was talking about something that made me angry … I often not realizing that my voice suddenly keep on rising until the highest volume…. Kidding…
3. When I was talking about something that made me happy or excited… I get animated when I talked about something exciting… And soon, my voice suddenly already need to be muted… Usually my friends patted me in the back…and I sort of calm down a bit…

If other people who talk too loud, then I (as usual) just assume that they :
1. Try to get other people’s attention…as they love when people started to staring at them…
2. Have inherited this ethnic’s gen who usually speak loudly wherever…whenever…
3. Rude because obviously this person think everybody is deaf and unable to hear whatever come out from his or her mouth…
4. Want everyone in the whole world know whatever they are doing (not a perfect candidate to be a spy as unable to keep a low profile)
5. Have limited ability to control their emotion and therefore the volume of their voices as well.
6. Just a habit that they have ever since they are born… (well, probaly?)

Anyone care to add? ;)

LOOSING MY TRUST

One day in the church the priest once told us something interesting.

People who have been trusted by the other members of the church and join to help the priest to serve people often act as if they are the righteous people on earth. They demand respect from the people that they should have been guiding. During the mass, they even sat in front of the people as if they are in this respective board of committee who has power above others.

Funny thing about those bunch of people who should represent the people but demand a lot like to be respected, addressed as if they are from royal family. They probably have a fantasy that they are really a royal family. Whenever they come out from their nest, there are dozens of people around them. Those people include assistant, assistant, private assistant, secretary, bodyguards. They feel important to use expensive car being guarded by the police. They enjoy the feeling of being important. They truly forget the real reason people chose them. And that is to represent the people’s need. To serve the people as they are the shepherd to guide us the lambs to the right way that our Lord teach us.

Whenever I read the newspaper about their behavior such as not attending important meetings, or sleeping all the way through the meeting, or chatting on the phone, browsing the internet, I often wondered…we really have been fooling ourselves. Thinking those people would do their job and pay attention to what is the need of the people.

In the old days, reporters are not as free as today. So I suppose this kind of behavior has been going on for ages. But since we have never known about it, we hardly care. Beside, as I could recall…life was better. We have good exchange rate against USD, all prices not as high as today (like the price of gasoline, rice and other needs).

But now, reading all those stories about how our representative behave like people who have no shame at all…getting me wonder… What’s the point knowing all of that? Is not that they are going to realize how degrading their behavior are but they are going to dismiss those facts. As if we the people overreact about them. That they have acted based on the law without even bother that people might get hurt. We are dying here and you use all that money to have fun in the name of compare studying? Seriously?

You may sit in that soft high position right now… But let us see how long you are going to sit there… Eventually you are going to get old and have no power whatsoever. You will also becoming the people who could watch in vain how their representative having a blast while others are vanishing due to the pain they have to endure.

NIGHTMARE IN THE REAL WORLD

You would think that by working in the office, people will have manner… Well, not really… After all, do not judge the book by its cover… They may look dashing, gorgeous; have high education (by meaning high, it means they graduated from abroad)…dress fashionably… It does not matter… You will shock to see what they really look like…especially if they have power to do so…

Someone I know once told me about her boss who always manage to find discouraging words every time his subordinates made mistakes:
“You are such a moron… How on earth you get a job here?”
“You graduated from university? Hah! I do not believe you… You are such an idiot…”
“How stupid can you get? Are you really that airhead?”

Other told me about his supervisor who always screaming every time they encountered a problem. She did not try to clear up the mess but wasting time to try who is the guilty perpetrator in the first place. Not to mention she is easily panic on almost about everything. When she was mad, she would scream at the guilty person while her forefinger keeps on pointing. She could spend those valuable seconds to be angry rather than try to fix the problem first. Well, if after that she wants to hang the guilty person it would be another story…

Another told me about horrific story about her crazy old manager with her psycho thirty something supervisor. They were arguing about something then the argument escalated into yelling contest and heated up more with throwing things at each other’s. Things that they throw started from calculator, books, stapler and anything near them. Nobody tried to separate them apart fear they might get hit with the things that they kept on throwing at each other…

What about me? Oh, surely I have one… Probably I did this to myself because I know I am really a difficult person to handle with. She made my first working year miserable. I remembered crying in the bathroom (yeah, yeah, I am such a cry baby)… Wishing I could just quit but I need the job… She loves screaming at me (or at anyone else for that matter) if I made mistakes… When she gave out papers she sort of throw them away… I realized I have to have two-faces in dealing with her. Sadly, that was the fact that I have to deal with.

What is the best way to deal with them? Sadly I cannot give any advice as I have chosen the safest way. I just say yes to whatever she asked in order to avoid listening her screaming. I talked nice, I acted nice… Wondering though until now what would happen if I just quit… But, I did not…
So, my advice is…just ask yourself whether the job is worth with your pride… If you think the environment is not healthy and you are ready to take risk… then I think you should quit. Heck, the first year in the office will be the year that make us what we are now. Either we become good or bad person… It is all up to us…

ONE STEP AT A TIME

My Dad jokes with me about my writing on the magazine the other day. He asked whether I have written many articles or at least a book.


Embarrassedly, I admitted to him that I have not written another article or even for a book. I am still working on it until now. And feel that I have reached this so-called writer’s block. Only it has taken longer times than I have expected. And that drive me a bit frustrated. I also told him about my manuscript that has been rejected for the third time by publisher.

Then my Dad said to me that it does not matter about me still stuck here or got rejected few times. He said that it would be better that way. I have to go through the process one step at a time. Maybe through rejections, getting nowhere in my writing as I have run out of ideas, getting small payment for my creation.

“All of that processes are necessary for you… I would rather you went through many difficulties at first then enjoy your success later, “ said my father to me.

According to my Dad, often people do not appreciate what they have if they are able to have it in such a short time. He is probably right. I have seen so many people easily get important position and they think that life has been great for them and there are no such things as difficulties and problems. They tends to look down on other people around them who already been in that place for a long time but still have the same position.


I also remember when I was younger in high school. My parents always say to me that if I want that new Walkman (well, sorry… We did not have technologies such as IPOD in the 80’s) then I have to study hard for my exams… Before I get good grades, my parents would never give anything that I want just like that. If you think that it was sounds like a bribe…well, let’s think positive. At least I studied harder in order to get what I want… The good grades, mind you ;) Walkman is just a bonus.


Imagine if my parents just gave it to me that walkman… I would probably have lost it, or tossed it, or lend it or even accidentally destroyed it. Why? There is no attachment to it as I got it so easily. So, I lack of appreciation to it as I would think…why bother? I would just get another one within seconds.

Plus, because I am getting it so easy…I never think of any chance that I might not going to get it another time… So, when I lost what is currently mine…I am also falling to a condition that makes me unable to get it again… Will I be able to recover and struggle to get it again? Maybe I can. But the hurt of falling down from higher place is more painful and I might get desperate…

“Better you climbing one step at a time to get to the top rather than you find a way to the top sooner but then you fall down really fast afterwards… The higher you fall it will be a lot harder for you to climb back..”


Oh well, but I do really need to remind myself to not get stuck in the middle of my climbing process… Wish me luck all ;)

OUR APPEARANCE

Have you seen reality show like HOW DO I LOOK or other shows about people requested help from the fashion expert about how they should dress up?

First of all, we probably say