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Heal The Abuse- Recover YourLife

By Jason Goodwin M.Ed.

For Meghan, whose death explained theneed.

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Published by Jason Goodwin M.Ed. atSmashwords

Copyright 2010, Jason Goodwin M.Ed.

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This ebook is licensed for your personalenjoyment only. This ebook may not be re-sold or given away toother people. If you would like to share this book with anotherperson, please purchase an additional copy for each person. Ifyou’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was notpurchased for your use only, then please return to Smashwords.comand purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard workof this author.

Praise for Jason Goodwin M.Ed.

"With you, it feels like the emphasis is onfiguring yourself out.

It feels productive." - David V.

"The one-on-one's with you help the most.You're great at breaking things

down to a grade-school level." - Greg J.

"I admire that you're willing to work throughyour problems and life

situations." - John Q.

"You help me figure things out more. Everytime we talk, it's an

inspiration." - Josh H.

"This program has given me my life back." -Ben S.

"I think Jason is really sincere, and Ibelieve he has my best interests

in mind." - Craig W.

"These one-on-one's have helped me the most."- Walter B.

"I really like you. You're easy to talk to."- Tim E.

"I got some insight from Jason about thevictim mentality that I've been

in for many years." - Ryan H.

"You seem like the kind of person who reallylikes to help

people. You're the only person I know who hasthat strong,

moral compass. I want to be more like you!" -Chris B.

"I wish my sessions with Jason were longer,because an hour just flies

by." - Jarret T.

"Thank you for making me feel comfortable.You have a really calming

energy about you." - Sharon Z.

"You've been a breath of fresh air with howmuch you care about your clients

and your organizational skills." - Joe B.

"I've heard from everyone that you're areally good counselor."

- Lynn M.

"You're an awesome counselor. That's whyyou're the first person

I called." - Phillip L.

"I'm just really impressed with Jason. Hereally knows what he's

talking about." - David M.

"I've heard alot of good things about you." -Lauri P.

"I brag about you alot." - Heather F.

"I picked you because you're focused. I canhear you thinking. I

think you'll be good for my recovery." -Robert C.

"At first you hate going to groups and by theend you love

going." - Anthony S.

"I need to tell Jason what a great groupsession he runs."

- Lewis S.

"I would change my school hours around to goto Jason's group."

- Mike R.

"I feel so much better when I get out of thisclass. This class

is the high point of my week." - John F.

"Keep up the good work, Jason!" - KevinK.

"I just want to say, thank you Jason." -Jerry S.

"I would like to say that Jason Goodwin hasbeen so instrumental

in my progress. He is the only counselor thatI was able to open

up to and be 100% honest with. He has theuncanny ability to make

you see who you really are without coming inwith an agenda to

distort who is at fault for all the poorchoices we make as people.

I am forever in his debt." - Dan T.

Table of Contents

1. Hope

2. Goals

3. Healing Techniques

4. Chemical Addiction

5. Sexual Addiction

6. Healing Sexual Addiction

7. Dealing With Pain

8. Relapse

9. Self-Sabotage

10. Body Image

11. Beyond Shame & Guilt

12. Depression

13. Grieving

14. The Inner Child

15. Deserving Love

16. Low Self-Esteem

17. High Self-Esteem

18. Powerlessness

19. Fear

20. Control

21. Anger

22. Betrayal

23. Trust

24. Forgiving

25. Values

26. Self-Care

27. Unhealthy Relationships

28. Respect in Relationships

29. Healthy Relationships

30. Staying Healthy

Introduction

Sexual abuse means being forced to give orreceive unwanted or inappropriate sexual touching, petting,fondling, oral sex, or intercourse. Sexual abuse happens to peopleof all ages, including children, adolescents, teenagers, adults,and the elderly. It occurs within every socioeconomic class andevery religious group.

Some perpetrators of sexual abuse have aknown criminal history. Others serve our country in public office.Perpetrators of sexual abuse have included men and women working inthe noblest of professions.

Doctors, dentists, lawyers, alcoholics,addicts, neighbors, friends, girlfriends and boyfriends, husbandsand wives, parents, distant relatives, siblings, priests, janitors,teachers, movie-producers, politicians, and total strangers. Thereis no such thing as a stereotypical abuser in terms of profession,socioeconomic class, standing in the community, relation to thesurvivor, religious affiliation, or sexual orientation.

Sexual abuse often continues to affect ourlives and relationships long after the abuse has ended. Beingsexually abused is always painful, always destructive to ourself-esteem, and often difficult to heal.

If you are reading this book, you mayunderstand the gravity of this issue. For many of us, healing thepain of sexual abuse is a matter of life and death.

I am an addictions therapist with a Master’sDegree in Counseling and Human Services. I have worked with addictsin the criminal justice system, as well as DUI and Drug-Courtoffenders. I counsel teenagers and adults who are survivors ofsexual abuse.

But my most important qualification inwriting this book is that I was sexually abused myself. For thisreason, I understand these issues on a very personal level. My ownabuse has contributed to the format of this book in some importantways. I have written the main body of each chapter from theperspective of a counselor in recovery. At the end of each chapter,I include journal entries from when I was personally working toheal each issue.

There is a place to process whatever feelingscome up for you and write about your own experiences. Most chaptersend with exercises and a section called “stepping stones tohealth.” This last section is designed to help you identify how faryou have come with the issues discussed in each chapter and assistyou in determining which step or steps you may need to take inorder to become healthy.

I have also included a “feelings table ofcontents.” This section matches thoughts and feelings commonlyexperienced by survivors of sexual abuse with the chapters wherethose issues are