Simply Feminine � Surprising Insights from Men by Wonderly, Morgan (best novels for beginners .txt) 📕

Men don’t offer their protection out of obligation or niceness in order to lure something from us, but because they have a desire to protect us. A man feels fulfilled when his woman is safe and thriving.

When it comes to a life-and-death situation, a man will unhesitatingly put himself in harm’s way to protect his woman and his family. Good, masculine men don’t decide to be heroes; it’s just their nature. From an early age, they know it is their role to protect. Men fiercely protect women just as women fiercely protect their little ones. Mother Nature set it up this way for the survival of our species. Men protect the females because they give birth to, and nurture, the men’s offspring. Keeping the female alive and out of harm’s way is a male imperative and essential to our continued existence. This protection by men is one of the reasons we’ve survived.

Femininity Is Timeless

In the not-so-distant past, men and women revered femininity because they understood its worth in mutual attraction, courtship, love, and marriage. Femininity was the cornerstone of a successful, functioning society, but especially since the 1960s, we’ve dishonored it.

We have confused tradition with nature. While traditions change over time, nature stays consistent for millions of years. Although we may now view femininity and masculinity as traditional social constructs, these essences are aspects of our nature. Femininity is a timeless truth that won’t disappear. Men of all ages innately understand this. Unlike fashion fads, femininity won’t go out of style. We can try to shame it away, but Mother Nature will always bring us back to what’s real.

The diminishment of femininity in recent decades has hurt men and women alike. We often hear about how women today are less happy than their mothers and grandmothers. We women have paid a high price by abandoning our true selves. The cost has been immense, especially in our love relationships with men.

As feminine women at our core, we will never feel deeply happy unless we reawaken our feminine nature, because that is where our heart lies. As long as we hide behind a mask of masculinity, we will remain unfulfilled because that’s not who we are. Men are waiting for our return.

Recap

Men know what’s feminine, just as we know what is masculine.

Men are the beholders of femininity; it’s the basis of their attraction for us.

Good men respect our femininity; we have gifts they appreciate, value, and need.

Men see women as more precious than they see themselves.

Men are less critical of us than we are of ourselves.

Men who choose us aren’t looking to change us.

Men are starved for our femininity.

Men adore the little things we do.

Our femininity brings out the best in men.

Men are saddened by our media-induced insecurities.

Good men will protect us at any cost.

Explorations and Journaling

Have you ever considered femininity from a man’s viewpoint? If so, what did you discover? If not, why do you think you haven’t?

Ask multiple men what they find feminine and desirable in women.

Think of the men in your life and the ways they’ve adored you and protected you. Did you show your appreciation to them? If so, how? If not, why not?

Was there ever a time you refused a man’s chivalry? If so, why?

Have you ever tried to change a man? If so, how did it work out?

What beauty products or services have you felt compelled to buy from magazine or TV ads? Did those items/services raise your self-esteem? Did they help to bring you love?

Can you think of a man who died saving the life of a woman? Describe the story.

Chapter 3

Understanding the Nature of Men

“If there hadn’t been women we’d still be squatting in a cave eating raw meat, because we made civilization in order to impress our girlfriends.”

– Orson Welles

Learning the Foreign Language of Men

To fully understand femininity from a man’s perspective and learn how it complements masculinity, it is essential that we first understand the nature of men. Masculine men share certain common traits regardless of the culture or era in which they live. Knowing about these traits will give us a greater appreciation of our differences and enable us to have more satisfying and passionate relationships with the men in our lives.

Understanding the nature of men can help us avoid unnecessary misunderstandings that often bring trouble to our relationships. Men don’t see the world in the same way we do, nor would we find them attractive if they did. Nature designed men and women with two opposite strategies to handle life’s challenges. These differences serve to attract men and women to each other for mutual support, inspiration, and procreation. They also allow men and women to contribute a diversity of approaches to life’s problems, which gives us better results than if men and women had the same perspective. In short, men and women speak different languages. They are motivated by different criteria. Countless relationships could be dramatically improved with the awareness of this information.

Women often ask, “Why should we learn about men? Why don’t men learn about us?” It makes more sense for us to first learn about men because they are far less complex to understand than we are. Therefore, it’s easier for us to learn their language than it is for them to learn ours. Once we better understand how men are different, it’s natural for us to adopt a more appreciative attitude toward them. In turn, men will feel more loving and adoring toward us.

“Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”

– Benjamin Franklin

Common Traits Masculine Men Share

Although each man is unique, masculine men share a number of universal traits.

Men Are Simple

Men are simple—without clutter and complication—but not simple-minded. Simplicity doesn’t mean they are less intelligent or valuable, but that they are more basic and fundamental, like nuts and bolts. Simplicity gives men freedom, which they highly value.

Men believe that the more unnecessary possessions they have, the more complicated their lives become; the more complicated their lives become, the less freedom they