How to Talk to Anyone (Junior Talker #2) by DeYtH Banger, Clive Cooper (epub ebook reader .txt) 📕

her colleagues also found that almost half of the men and women in their study suffered from at least one of these problems between the ages of 21 and 30.

 

“That’s big,” McCarty told Reuters Health, and is likely only “the tip of the iceberg,” because she and her colleagues used fairly stringent definitions of alcohol abuse, depression and obesity in their study.

 

The young men and women in the current study have been followed since 1985, when they were in fifth grade. McCarty and her team looked at data from interviews conducted when the study participants were 24, 27 and 30 years old to understand the interrelationships among depression, obesity and alcohol use disorders.

 

At age 21, 8 percent of women and 12 percent of men had at least two of the three problems. Over time, having more than one of the problems became more common for women, but less so for men.

 

For men, the only association the researchers saw was for obese 27-year-olds, who were less likely to be depressed at age 30. But women who were depressed at 27 were more than three times as likely to meet criteria for alcohol abuse or dependence at age 30.

Women who had alcohol use problems at 24 were nearly four times as likely to be obese at 27, while being obese at age 27 more than doubled the risk of depression at 30.

 

And lower-income individuals of both sexes were at greater risk of depression and obesity.

A tendency to “ruminative coping”-in which a person replays and obsesses about negative events-may be one of the traits that links alcohol abuse, obesity and depression, McCarty noted in an interview.

 

Dr. Susan Nolen-Hoeksma, a psychologist at Yale, has referred to the three as a “toxic triangle” of “eating, drinking and overthinking,” the researcher added, and has shown that women-and men-who ruminate are more depressed and more likely to drink or to binge eat to cope with emotional problems.

 

There are interventions that target all three legs of this toxic triangle, McCarty said, including physical exercise, mindfulness training, and stress management. Strategies for treating depression, alcohol use problems, and obesity-all of which are characterized by problems with the brain’s “reward system”—also need to help people find alternatives to rewarding themselves with food or alcohol, she added.

“We have to think about how people can start to build in naturally rewarding experiences in their lives,” she said.

 

SOURCE: General Hospital Psychiatry, September/October 2009

 

 

How to Cope With Friends Talking About You Negatively

 

 

 

Talking to your friend about what you heard could end the negativity.

 

 

A friend comes to you and explains that a mutual friend of yours has been calling you names, spreading rumors or gossiping about personal matters. A friend speaking negatively about you can amount to a hurtful betrayal. While you may not be able to get your friend to stop, you can take steps to protect yourself and cope with the behavior.

 

Planning Ahead

 

Maybe a mutual friend told you about other friends who said something negative about you, or you overheard your friends spreading the gossip yourself. If you did not hear the gossip firsthand, consider your source first. Does this person like to cause trouble or have something to gain by getting you into an argument with your friends? Confiding in someone else you trust, such as a family member or counselor, can also give you the confidence and tools you need to confront this negative behavior, according to TeensHealth.org.

 

Confronting Your Friends

 

Arrange a time to talk when you and your friends are feeling calm. It may be ideal to talk to each person individually, according to "When Friends Fight: Think About It" on the PBS Kids website. You might open the conversation by saying "I feel hurt because I heard that you blamed me for your breakup. Is this true?" Giving each friend the chance to explain the situation may give you new insight. If the conversation gets heated, or your friend seems eager to start a fight, disengage by saying that you can discuss the matter at another time. If your friend apologizes, consider accepting it if this is a first offense.

 

After the Confrontation

 

If your friend apologizes, leave the argument in the past -- don't bring it up when you are upset later. In the meantime, take note of whether your friends continue to speak negatively of you. If you are frequently hearing about negative gossip from your friends, it may be a sign that they are never going to change the way they communicate, or how they feel about you. If you pick up on other passive-aggressive behavior, such as friends rolling their eyes after you speak, you should confront the behavior calmly, firmly and directly, according to licensed social worker Signe Whitson, writing for "Psychology Today." You might say "it seems to me that you are unhappy about what I had to say."

 

Getting Help

 

Negative talk from friends can leave you feeling poorly about yourself and clinging to friendships that may not be worth your time, according to PBS Kids. If your friendships leave you feeling emotionally drained and defensive, it may be time to move on. Having no friends at all is better than having friends who will continually put you down. Speaking to a counselor or therapist can also help you get perspective on the situation and how to move forward.

 

 

 

Note: If you want to be in the game and to be funny... you need first to learn with who you are playing.

 

 

Tips

 

1) Say All type of shit... it doesn't mean... as longer as you don't think.

2) Don't stay in your head.

3) Don't stay in the past

4) Don't go in the future

5) As longer as you put less... value you gonna succeed

6) End a discussion with saying a shit which puts you in carefree mod... 

which means .... say something like

 

You: Okay... I gonna fuck my mom...

or
You: I like fucking my grandpa...

You: I am total slut...

 

 

Comedians are carefree people... they don't put value in anything that's how they say so many shit and they continue and continue and.... they don't give a fuck!

 

 

 Note: I don't like smoking... but I like holding something my hand...

 

 

 

 

 

It's so lovely and deadly... let's pre-exposure the whole thing

 

 

 

 

 Secondhand Smoke

 

 

 

Smoking harms both you and the ones you love. Quitting smoking will benefit you plus help you protect the people in your life.

 

 

Quitting will make the people you care about happier and healthier. This may be one of your reasons for quitting.

 

Dangers of Secondhand Smoke

 

The main way smoking hurts non-smokers is through secondhand smoke. Secondhand smoke is the combination of smoke that comes from a cigarette and smoke breathed out by a smoker. When a non-smoker is around someone smoking, they breathe in secondhand smoke.

Secondhand smoke is dangerous to anyone who breathes it in. It can stay in the air for several hours after somebody smokes. Breathing secondhand smoke for even a short time can hurt your body.

 

 

Health Effects of Secondhand Smoke

 

Over time, secondhand smoke has been associated with serious health problems in non-smokers: 

Lung cancer in people who have never smoked.  More likely that someone will get heart disease‚ have a heart attack‚ and die early.  Breathing problems like coughing‚ extra phlegm‚ wheezing‚ and shortness of breath.

 

Secondhand smoke is especially dangerous for children, babies, and women who are pregnant: 

 

 

Mothers who breathe secondhand smoke while pregnant are more likely to have babies with low birth weight.  Babies who breathe secondhand smoke after birth have more lung infections than other babies.  Secondhand smoke causes kids who already have asthma to have more frequent and severe attacks.  Children exposed to secondhand smoke are more likely to develop bronchitis, pneumonia, and ear infections and are at increased risk for sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). 

 

The only way to fully protect non-smokers from the dangers of secondhand smoke is to not allow smoking indoors. Separating smokers from non-smokers (like “no smoking” sections in restaurants)‚ cleaning the air‚ and airing out buildings does not get rid of secondhand smoke.

 

 

Other Ways Smoking Affects Others

 

Smoking affects the people in your life in other ways, beyond their health. When you smoke, you may miss out on:

Spending time with family and friends. Having more money to spend on the people you love. Setting a good example for your children. Children who are raised by smokers are more likely to become smokers themselves.

 

Steps You Can Take to Protect Your Loved Ones

 

The best thing you can do to protect your family from secondhand smoke is to quit smoking. Right away, you get rid of their exposure to secondhand smoke in your home and car, and reduce it anywhere else you go together.

Make sure your house and car remain smokefree. Kids breathe in secondhand smoke at home more than any other place. The same goes for many adults. Don’t allow anyone to smoke in your home or car. Setting this rule will:

Reduce the amount of secondhand smoke your family breathes in. Help you quit smoking and stay smokefree. Lower the chance of your child becoming a smoker.

When you’re on the go, you can still protect your family from secondhand smoke:

Make sure caretakers like nannies, babysitters, and day care staff do not smoke. Eat at smokefree restaurants. Avoid indoor public places that allow smoking. Teach your children to stay away from secondhand smoke.

 

 

How to Support Your Boyfriend While He Goes Through Drug Withdrawal

 

 

Note: It starts... from depression, stress, anxiety... it goes over porn... alcohol and drugs... how far it will get?

 

 

 

 

Withdrawing from drugs can cause headaches, body aches and muscle cramps.

 

If your boyfriend has chosen to withdraw from drugs that he is addicted to, it is highly advisable that he does so with the help of a medical professional to ensure that he is safe and supported. Drug withdrawal is often a painful and draining process, mentally, physically and emotionally. There are things you can do to help him feel more comfortable during the withdrawal process and to support your boyfriend to kick his drug addiction.

 

Be Patient

 

Most drug withdrawals have an acute stage and a post-acute stage. In the first stage, the physical symptoms of withdrawal are at their worst and your boyfriend may feel quite ill. When those start to subside, it can still take time for the body to get back to normal, and your boyfriend may experience such symptoms as restlessness, drug cravings and insomnia for weeks or even months. Be patient with him and keep reminding him of the progress he has already made throughout the process.

 

Ease His Pain

 

Soup and soft fruit are good, nourishing recovery foods.

 

People withdrawing from physically addictive drugs often experience a lot of physical pain and discomfort. This can include nausea, body aches, muscle cramps, feeling extremely cold or hot, and sweating profusely. Running your boyfriend a soothing bath can help to ease the pain in his body. In the first few days, he may find it difficult to eat much if he feels too sick, but make sure he drinks enough water and eats some nourishing food as soon as he is able.

 

Listen To Him

 

While your boyfriend is detoxing from the drugs, he is likely to suffer from some low moods, partly due to the physical discomfort and partly because kicking an addiction is an emotionally difficult process. Listening to him share his pain, concerns and fears can help him feel cared for and comforted. Talking to you may also distract him from the pain when he is feeling particularly bad. Offer your boyfriend some encouraging words back to show him that you are there to support him.

 

Reward His Efforts

 

The Community-Reinforcement Approach is a model for treating addiction that is used in drug treatment centers. It suggests that an effective way of encouraging drug users to be abstinent is by rewarding them when they do well. To reward your boyfriend for completing his withdrawal, you could plan