That Side of Introversion by Shubham Sharma (ebook reader for laptop .TXT) 📕

One day, he was sitting in a park. There were three people in front of him. Some random bimbo, and two other guys who have yet to figure out cigarette smoke sticks to them.

He was just sat there, completely minding his own business. Reading. They kind of know him. They tried to get his attention by slapping his back with a ruler. "Heyyy kid. HEYYYYY'.

He just kept reading. Then they just tried staring at him, for about three minutes. 'He doesn't move' so then they make a game out of it. If the dude can make me look up, the bimbo would pay him or something.

They just keep talking to him. He didn't realize yet that they made a game out of it. They just kept staring at him. Then a guy eventually pulls the book out of his hand.

They take a picture of him with the flash on.

He looks up and sees both of the guys recording him on their phones. They laugh and leave the park.

He really has no idea what to do about this. Shit like this happens all the time. He can't tell anyone, that's really no help to him. He can't throw a punch because he is weak and he'll get suspended.

He can’t tell his parents, they just tell him to quit bitching and do something. He is bitching because he has no idea what to do.

Many of you also dealt with this. Right?

Either you’re thinking here we go again with the whole over usage of shaming and bullying. Honestly, I can totally understand how you could feel either way. Yes, there is a part of me that feels that the word shaming and bullying has been used way too often.

But in the same breath, I know that introvert shaming or introvert bullying really exists.

Throughout my life, I have noticed that bullies who thrive on other people’s problems tend to pick on people who will not stand up for themselves. These people are easy targets and if met with little resistance they will prove to become a popular target in the future. Second one the people who react very emotionally when bullied, this is often the response a bully is looking for so if you react with hysteria or get upset, you are essentially feeding the bully’s behavior.

With this in mind usually, the best way to deal with bullies is to always try to remain calm and collected. Remember that everything they say has no basis in truth and purely to offend you, this is very disarming for a bully if you do not display emotions.

Secondly to create some stability by being aggressive and saying that their comments aren’t appropriate and they need to stop.

Even if they try to up their game, just repeat the same line, in the next encounter they will likely leave you alone because they will remember that their last attempt did not go quite how they wanted it to.

When an Introvert fall in Love

Dear Prospective Date, We need to talk. After a string of encounters, it’s time to clear the air that the way you’ve been going about courtship just isn’t working. An Introvert need a much lower level of mental stimulation to operate than extroverts require. If you want to get to know Introvert, you have to go about things differently, and in return, they will be fiercely loyal and communicative partners. This is an open letter which will endear you to your introverted love interests. Take heed.

Basically, introverts don't care much about interacting with others. They love to live in their own imaginary world.

But when they fall in love,

That's the most Innocent & Beautiful moment for them.

Trust me, they have the most beautiful encounters with their love.

Introverts, when fall for someone, fall too hard. It's like a sharp blow, destruction in their peaceful world. They have never let anyone too close, except for a few friends, and suddenly, you're breaking all their borders. They want to stop you, they want to resist you every bit because they know you have the ability to affect them like no one else. They are too soft, too vulnerable with their feelings.

And yet, you're there, painting their small, dimly lit world into all sorts of bright colors. Damn, they wish they could throw you out of their cover, but you're so good, they cannot help. Suddenly all those love-lorn songs make sense to them. Ask your partner about their secrets and you end up knowing that your partner imagines you in every song, sing, and smile like an idiot. You are the romance to them that they thought would never scent their life, the fairytale they thought they'd never receive.

Before they realize, they are waiting for your calls. They try to keep the conversations going but are terrible at it. They steal glances at you, at least they think so. If you're alert enough, you'd know they actually are staring. Plain, innocent staring.

So many of introverts are in fact great painters, writers, musicians, etc. If you want to know if they really care about you, closely observe their art, it is their way of expressing everything that they'd rather not express.

And yes, they won't make the first move. They won't approach first, how much ever love-sick they are. How to deal with them: you can't. Give them time, give them space, and let them come at their own pace.

The reason introverts have the most beautiful versions of love is, they don't allow the world to spoil it. They embrace love in the most sincere way: pure and innocent.

Introverts need quiet time with those they love. It gives a chance to gather their thoughts and recharge. It gives time to do more things that they really like to do such as read, write, or reflect on their day.

If they have picked you, they have already determined you’re worth the risk. They have chosen you as one of the few worthy of letting see their inner self. This leaves them vulnerable, but some people are worth that risk.

Introverts often fall in love with extroverts. They admire and envy you at the same time. They are in awe of your ability to woo others and charm the room. The ease at which you seem with strangers. It is part of why they are attracted to you. But it is also a little threatening to them. Introverts see in you something they know they can’t be, and they worry you will be scared with their quiet spirits.

Just because introverts don’t gain energy from large gatherings doesn’t mean they don’t love to laugh and have a blast.

Introverts have sharp witty humor that reveals itself when they are with people they trust. A quiet spirit doesn’t mean boring by any means.

They may be a painter, writer, musician, singer etc. And there is a high chance that they would always like to immortalize their loved ones through their way of expression.

Introverts are some of the most underrated and misjudged people today.

Introverts generally never let anyone come close to their heart. But if an introvert starts talking to you, starts expressing you that is a clear sign that the person is interested in you. They won’t say you, ‘I love you’ every now and then but they will prove it with their work.

Introverts always have thoughts inside their heads, they engage in deep conversations, ruminate about life, the universe, and everything, and take the time to really reflect on all that’s going on in the world around them and isn’t that looks like a perfect relationship.

When they are getting to know you, they will ask you about life, love, what scares you, what moves you. In many ways, these conversations are more intimate and gratifying than the constant boring chatter that people engage in.

This makes the whole courtship a deeper, more meaningful process.

At times, you need to understand them a little more because they can’t express their feelings most of the times. Even if they want you with all their heart, at times they can’t say it. So, at times the other partner needs to be a little more understanding.

Introverts are not looking to be the center of attention. While they’ll likely run and hide when their name is called, you can be assured that when you step off the stage, they’ll be the ones cheering the loudest.

Introverts love differently than most people and in a world built for extroversion, their silence can be confusing. Yet it is the silence that holds the answers.

An introvert in love will leave their comfort zone but will also demand respect for their own quiet time.

There are many things happen when an Introvert falls in Love. If an introvert falls in love with an extrovert, it reflects in them being willing to leave their comfort zone. We must understand that introverts are wired differently, therefore a busy bar or a coffee shop might not be an ideal setting to hang out for them.

However, love trumps the discomfort and you see this when they are willing to put themselves in these settings without much trouble. I’m not trying to suggest that they make a great sacrifice for love, but that the trouble of being in an extroverted environment seems to be worth it if that means they get to spend time with their loved one.

If you are about to date an introvert, remember one thing, you have to take things slow. You see, taking things slow is always a good idea when it comes to romance, but it is especially careful if you’re dealing with someone who is introverted. Remember they don’t share things the way you do. Their concept of love and boundaries is different.

Introverts take time to trust people. The silent person you are falling in love with is going through a storm of emotions in their mind and you must trust that they will reveal everything at the correct time.

They will go out of their way to accommodate you, they’ll go to the party that you want to go to, they’ll even start hanging out outside every day, but they will not rush things, neither will they be able to explain this speed.

Just roll with it.

Don’t Fall in Love with an Introvert Unless You Can Promise that you’ll let them love their solitude.

Promise that you’ll take things slow.

Promise that you’ll never be satisfied with the surface level.

Promise that you will never, ever make your partner the center of an embarrassing display of attention.  

Promise that you are your own person.

Promise that you’ll be gentle in conflict.

Kindly,

Your Introverted Date

Do Introverts hate the peoples?

Introverts Don’t Hate People, They Hate Shallow Socializing.

As Charles Bukowski said, “I don’t hate people, I just feel better when they aren’t around.”

This quote exists for a reason. This is funny and relatable, and I’ve enjoyed sharing it just as much as anyone else. But there’s a darker side to it. They can also serve as a coping mechanism for those who need an excuse to hide behind.

It’s the whole “I’m too school for cool” personality. It’s easy for Introverts to say they spent the majority of the party playing with the host’s pet because the people there weren’t half as interesting as the books they have at home.

So they oversimplify and say they don’t like people when what they actually dislike are the surface-level interactions of most social gatherings.

And therein lies the problem that has kept thousands of introverts awake until all hours of the night. Because being an introvert doesn’t mean you want to be alone all the time. But unfortunately, in order to meet people to share your inner world with, it’s necessary to go out and socialize.

In order to get to those coveted discussions about life goals, creative passions, and the existence of the universe, you sometimes have to start with some small talk, no matter how painful it might be.

It’s all about balance. Just like