That Side of Introversion by Shubham Sharma (ebook reader for laptop .TXT) 📕

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That Side of Introversion

Strength of a Quiet Life in a Noisy World

Written By

Shubham Sharma

“That Side of Introversion is an amazing book. It is more like an open letter from an introvert. Being a person with anxiety, I could relate to most of the saying in the book and having an experience with extrovert friends, the books say a lot about them as well. If people read it with open mind, they can understand about introverts and extroverts. I loved the point where it is said that every successful inventor was an introvert and thus created technology to reduce one on one interaction.”

-Nida Saqib

“You have wonderfully penned the life of introvert all the phases and the questions they face. Even I am an introvert and I could relate each word you have piled up in your book.”

-Arpita Tiwari

‘This book takes you down a not so usual Road of introverts. Well written, it gives you a different outlook of how we should never ' mistake shy people for less confident'. It’s a must read for introverts as it's going to boast your confidence and for extroverts as it will be a new experience. The book's really nicely written and the choice of topic is different and good. Well done.”

-Shreya Singh

Well, I didn't know the difference between introvert and extrovert before. But after reading this book, i can say that introverts are not from mars, they are also a person with good heart and they see the world in a different way. I liked the part where it is said that, it is the most beautiful thing when the introverts fall in love. With this line I can relate a lot. After reading this book, the vision of seeing the introverts and extroverts by people will change.

-Sumit Mishra

It's not just a book, it's a research, and it’s an introvert’s mind. I would suggest each person to read this. Though introverts might connect to this book well, I would suggest that extroverts should also read the book to understand their life partners, friends, colleagues, employees and employers.

-Rohit Verma

If you're an introvert - this book will give you the strength to accept who you are rather than feeling like it's a character flaw. If you're an extrovert, this book will change your perspective on introversion and help you understand the introverts in your life.
In short, no matter who you are...this is a must read.

-Nirmita Gandhi

Dedication

This Book is dedicated to all the peoples related to my life in any way.

Whether we met once in a life or we were crazy about each other or we haven’t seen each other in much too long or we worked together or we are in some way related.

This one’s for you.

With you know what, and you probably know why.

Author’s Note 

This Book is not the Manual or Guide for the Introverts to Survive in this World along with the extroverts. Yes, Extroverts who are overconfident, over excited, over mature, over sociable, and over dynamic. Remaining are the Introverts. Yeah, just introverts as all the world knows them with this Tag or Title. But Introverts are much different as per your thinking or fantasy.

They talk differently than you, they think differently than you, they live their lives much differently than you. But you can’t believe this because of your judgmental thinking.

I know most of the people will offend after reading this Book because as this book describe the other side of Introverts and also describe the cruel thinking and behavior of the Extroverts with the Introvert Peoples.

Introverts think that being an introvert is a crime. Hell no, this is not true.

Keep a one-arm distance from everyone because you want to protect your space.

You find your cell phone or laptop more interesting than humans. You walk around with your headphones on to avoid a conversation even there’s no music playing. You had a more thoughtful conversation with your Pet. You mostly leave without saying goodbye to anyone & you really don’t like your relatives and kids. Then, buddy, this is not a crime.

Usually, introverts have observed themselves doing things like fear of the crowd, hating the world, living alone, and thinking a lot on all issues.

Many people around you call you a psycho, loner, mentally disturbed, negative thinking guy, coward to talk with someone and don’t know what else. But in reality, they all are wrong.

You know you’re doing nothing wrong, you are just doing what really matters to you. Don’t ever doubt yourself. God has given you something special that this world can’t understand because the world fears what they don’t understand.

So, chill out and don’t give a damn about what the world is saying.

- Shubham Sharma

Content

Myths about Introverts

Bullying- Most favorite thing to do for Extroverts

When an Introvert fall in Love

Do introverts hate the peoples?

Being an Introvert is a Crime?

This may offend you (Extroverts)

Don’t Change. You are awesome

Myths about Introverts

Being an introvert is perfectly normal.

Despite what your parents, teachers, and even your friends may have told you, being an introvert doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you and it’s not even that uncommon. Even if you’re not an introvert yourself, you likely work with, are married to or friends with an introvert. Most people know more introverts than they think.

But many people don’t fully understand what it means to be an introvert. They compare introversion with shyness, depression, or even social anxiety. When introverts go quiet, they are wrongly accused of being stuck up, angry, or disinterested. When they spend time alone, they are often accused of being antisocial or selfish.

An introvert’s lack of chitchat is often misunderstood. People take it as a sign that they don’t like others. The truth is the opposite. Introverts often avoid small talk because they consider it to be inauthentic.

They crave a more meaningful connection with the people they talk to.

Start an interesting conversation about something the introvert cares about and you just might find that they can be the most talkative person in the room.

Being an introvert is part of who they are, and it can be a source of brilliance. They are at their best when they adopt their nature and use it as a source of strength.

Sure, sometimes introverts envy an extrovert’s ability to think quickly or fit naturally into a social situation. But they also take great delight in their inner world and their alone time. Introverts have many strengths that don’t come naturally to extroverts, and they wouldn’t trade extroverts for the world.

People sometimes make the mistake of thinking that just because a person is quiet, that it also means they are shy.

However, it is important to realize that

There is a big difference between introversion, shyness, and social anxiety.

Introverts simply tend to be more reserved and inward-turning. They like to get to know a person more before engaging in a lot of conversation. They prefer to think before they speak.

They typically don't enjoy a lot of chit-chats or small talk.

So the next time you notice someone who is quiet and reserved, don't assume that they are shy or afraid of talking to others.

If you are an introvert, you might recall being told by parents or other adults to "come out of your room and stop sulking," when you were really just trying to have a little quiet-time.

Many people interpret this need to be alone as rude or dismissive.

While they might be quiet at a loud and crowded social gathering, it doesn't mean they are not having fun. In other words, Introverts are not party-poopers.

Introverts can be quiet and reserved when you meet them, and it can be difficult to know what they're thinking. This can cause others to perceive them as rude. They actually do like spending time with people that they know well.

According to some estimates, as much as 40 percent or more of the population identifies themselves as introverted. Based on those figures alone, introversion certainly is not something weird, odd or even eccentric.

They tend to follow their own interests rather than paying much attention to what is popular or trendy.

Many introverts do describe themselves as "homebodies," or people who enjoy hanging out at home and enjoying their family and hobbies. This does not mean that they are afraid of public spaces. Another common misconception about introverts is that they are quiet and reserved because they have low self-esteem or lack self-confidence.

Pro Tip: Don't assume that a reserved kid lacks confidence.

People who are introverted are not misanthropic. In fact, introverts are typically very interested in people. They simply feel exhausted by lots of talking and socializing, particularly lots of needless talking.

Introversion is often treated as something that needs to be overcome.

Many introverts report that teachers and other adults often forced them into situations where they felt uncomfortable or overwhelmed making a quiet student take over as the leader of a group, assigning a reserved child the lead role in the school play, and pairing quiet kids with the most extroverted kids in class for group assignments, for example.

Such actions are often accompanied by one simple explanation: "You're too quiet and getting you out there more will help you get over it"

But introversion isn't something to "get over." Forcing a shy or anxious child into social situations where they feel overwhelmed or uncomfortable is not the most appropriate way to deal with it.

Introverts don't need to be broken down and remold into extroverts.

Introverts are not the only personality types that are misunderstood at times. Extroverts are often accused by those who don't understand them as being loud and overly talkative.

For an introvert, constantly being told that "you're quiet" is a lot like telling an extrovert that they "never shut up." It's unnecessarily rude and comes with the assumption that there is something wrong with the individual.

Both personality types need to make an effort to understand those who differ from them. Introverts have their own needs and characteristics as extroverts do.

But learning more about how people with these personality types tend to think, act and feel can certainly improve your understanding of people.

Bullying

Most favorite thing to do for Extroverts

One of my friends told me an incident about his college one time. Read it below then we will talk about this.

“There was a boy in my college, the land of pot smokers, mouth breathers and worst of all, extroverts.

He is quiet. He didn't talk much. At all, really. He didn't have friends. I guess he has somewhat of friends because they're really just girls who feel sorry for him obviously he endures, 'Smile!' and 'Why are you so quiet?'

There's this one dude, really small and a freshman. He usually just walk by himself and browse his phone. That freshman always tries to talk to him. 'How's it going?' You may think that this is trying to be friendly but it isn't at all. That freshman knows, very well, that it makes him uncomfortable and he has no intentions of speaking to that freshman.

He just ignores that guy every time. This is an everyday thing. He is by himself all the time.

This means people throw shit at him during lunch, between lectures, class. Pencil, paper, whatever.

The most classic one. Taps him "HEY DUDE". He turns around, they're looking around