That Side of Introversion by Shubham Sharma (ebook reader for laptop .TXT) 📕

The reward of staying in is so much sweeter when it’s saved as its own unique event to look forward to.

Whereas staying home with a book feels a whole lot less special when you’re doing it for the tenth night in a row.

Sometimes you have to go out to fully appreciate staying in, and vice versa.

I never would’ve met some of my closest friends if I chose to stay home and read all the time. Those relationships I have now were worth the anxiety and apprehension I felt upon venturing out of my comfort zone to establish them.

When Introverts socialize, they’re not looking for a way just to pass the time. They already have a full list of hobbies and interests and not enough hours in the day to enjoy them all.

But they are always looking for a new person with whom they can share their passions and world.

Sometimes meeting that one new person can be worth the agony of socializing. They like to think that they’re the kind of person worth socializing for.

So, my fellow introverts, please occasionally put down your books, go out, and search for the people who make socializing worth it because I’m out there looking for you.

Don’t overthink that everyone hates you or everyone hates you. Neglect negative people from your life. Don't give a Single Fuck to what others think about you. And I’m sorry to use the F word.

But that's how you develop the correct attitude towards useless people in life.

It's not at all necessary to be with the so-called "Elite" or "Popular" Person of the class or where you work. Everyone forgets everyone on the graduation day or when you leave your work.

Be with the people you are comfortable with if that number is zero, don't worry, you are not going to be in college or office forever. Just a small part of your awesome big life. Live alone, live with your family, be on the internet and talk with people with whom you find amazing to talk, this is the best use of technology you can make.

Always everyone become a great speaker when they talk about introverts that introverts hate people but they never ask why?

The reason is being asked every time, “Why are you so quiet?”

Reasons are the Crowd. Whether it’s a mall, school, or a playground, extroverts see crowds and feel energized. Introverts see crowds and just want to hide. They do enjoy people, but in much, much, smaller doses.

The reason is talking in groups. Introverts feel exhausted when they stand in a group and everyone just does their talks and staring at them to say something.

Introverts prefer hanging out with one or two close friends. Sometimes they have to refuel after a social event. They need their alone time.

This may offend you (Extroverts)

Why do extroverts and people, in general, get so offended with the behavior of introverts?

I don’t think Extroverts get offended, they just can’t relate to introverts. They don’t understand how someone can be happy with peace and quiet, at the same time enjoy their own company with solitude. Introverts are not the majority, so it takes some time for people to adjust.

Since Extroverts need people, it’s hard for them to understand, that introverts need space and privacy.

You can’t help how you were born. You always just be yourself. Never change just to appease, or get approval.

The ones that love and accept you, matter. If people don’t want to understand, don’t worry about it. Just do you.

Extroverts need emotional support even if it is from a quietly spoken introvert or the dumb peoples who cannot think for themselves. I have observed that all extroverts need constant attention, praise, and applause as they are still ten years old.

Most are insecure about being left by themselves, secluded, excluded and if given the silent treatment.

They need to be reassured about themselves and that is why all extroverts must interact with other people most of the time.

If some extroverts are offended by the behavior of introverts it is because they have a chip on their shoulder and lack the ability to be polite and mindful of those they perceive the need to be alone.

Extroverts need that emotional energy in the room that only talkative individuals make them feel comfortable and secure.

When we shorten conversations with others, it appears as though we don’t feel like engaging with them, or maybe don’t like them because we don’t have much to say.

This is not the case, but extroverts don’t understand why introverts would be so brief and unwilling to enter into the lengthy conversation.

Most introverts do make an effort to small talks and don’t have too many problems getting into conversations, but there are times when interactions have to be cut short, or rather times when they don’t even begin because the introversion just takes over.

For many introverts, conforming to societal expectations can be exhausting.

This is because several behaviors that are natural and innate for introverts are offensive to extroverts and vice versa.

Unfortunately, small talk can’t be avoided.  In business, at social gatherings and pretty much anytime you are meeting new people, superficial banter is a necessity.

When I was 18, I would usually skip the small talk and interested in more personal topics that excited me.  This works fine in adolescence, but it’s risky in adult conversations.

As adults, we’re expected to be appropriate, respect boundaries, blah blah blah. Sometimes I think I was better off with my old approach.

Extroverts are typically confused or offended by our tendency to leave social situations at ‘inappropriate’ times.

Stephen Hawking once said, “Quiet people have the loudest minds”.

As introverts, their thoughts can be so loud that they overpower the noise around us.

I can see how extroverts might interpret this behavior as rude or irresponsible. But really, it’s just one of those adorable characteristics that make introverts so loveable. Right?

While extroverts delight in after-dinner conversation, introverts are often twisting in their seats.  They wonder how soon they can leave without coming off as rude.

Extroverts and introverts see things very differently.  Consequently, extroverts regularly misinterpret their actions.

I think that the online business world was created by introverts for introverts. To be successful, extroverts must learn the new rules.

Almost all how-to success books advise readers to become more extroverted. The assumption is that you'll do better in business and in life if you're a "people person."

Under this way of thinking, being introverted is a handicap or maybe even a form of mental illness.

Extroverts rule; introverts are the sad loners of the world. Wrong.

With today's technology, it's the "people" who are old-fashioned. When you're online, introverts rule, extroverts are the sad and needy ones.

Perhaps you may not have noticed, but the people who have created everything from the computer to the internet to the mobile phone were all introverts. Every blessed one.

Obviously, the entire point of all that technology is to make it easier for people to interact and get things done without dealing person-to-person. Classic introvert thinking.

Extroverts are mentally stuck in meat-space. Today, the power players are the introverts who are comfortable interacting online.

For example, suppose you're sitting across the table from somebody who pulls out his smartphone in the middle of a conversation and checks his messages.

In this situation, an extrovert will get all upset like it’s some kind of huge insult. On the other hand, an introvert will shrug it off or pull out their own smartphone.

With a good pair of headsets, an introvert can work anywhere, even in those dreadful open-plan offices that extroverts love so much.

Extroverts, on the other hand, can't seem to get much done without surrounding themselves with people and eating up everyone else's time.

To be successful today, extroverts need to learn the skills that come naturally to introverts. Extroverts should learn to work alone for a period of time. They should learn to draw energy from your own thought processes.

They should develop their self-motivation and self-awareness skills. Most important, they should learn to think about the things before shooting off their mouth. Another one is to listen to people rather than forcing them to listen to you.

Introverts created the online world. They're perfectly happy to let extroverts play in our sandbox, as long as they're willing to play by our rules.

Introverts know how it feels when we have reached our door for extrovert-style fun as everyone say. Our brains feel full, or tired like a muscle.  

Do extroverts experience anything similar?

How do they feel when they’ve been tucked into an introverted space too long?

Maybe they’re stuck at their desk on a deadline, or holed up in the house with a cold, or just taking a break from extrovert fun that somehow lasts a day or two too long.

So I don't mean to be cruel & using harsh words, but it's the extroverts who need to change their personalities to become more successful. Not the introverts.

Don’t Change.

You are Awesome.

Extroverts are actually scared of you because they don’t act like one of them. It’s like when a white sheep in the herd is black. So, you are just like that Black sheep.  

There are many myths about introvert which are very popular. Like, Introverts don’t like to talk, they are shy, they are rude & they don’t like peoples. This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days. Everyone thinks that you are as lonely as everyone else.

But the reality is you don’t need anyone else. You are awesome.

Have faith in yourself & always be proud of being an introvert.

Being Introvert is like being two people in one soul because you’ll either be super quiet or you can say shy (we couldn’t agree with this), and scared to make eye contact or you’ll be the loudest most hype person ever.

It all depends on how comfortable an introvert with you. Sometimes I feel that everyone is busy with their lives and didn’t have much time to talk to others.

But No, They talk but not with an introvert. What’s the crime they did? They don’t like talking, is this a crime?

Why everyone is always staying away from where an introvert is sitting or standing? Just because they have anxiety. Dear, you don’t even know what anxiety is. What it feels like. When Anxiety hits them, they feel like everyone hates them, even they know this is not true. But they can’t control their thinking or else I can say Overthinking which is the free gift they got with anxiety. Actually, they don’t like bothering people.

Introverts don’t want to enter other people’s comfort zone without their permission. If you don’t know what people with anxiety goes through every day. Then Please SHUT UP. Please be Kind with Everyone.

Many people believe that to be an achiever, you must be strong, sociable, and dynamic, or else we can say, you must be an extrovert.

This is just a Myth because Introverts have all these traits in their personality. I can give countless examples, but why you need an example when you can also become an example for someone.

"Introverts are nice as fuck. So if you see any Introvert being mean or rude to someone. They deserve that shit."

Don't Change. You're awesome.

And Yes, I’m also an Introvert.

Oh Sorry!

Proud Introvert.

Credits

Cover Picture: Richard Jaimes

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