I Am A Woman And Not Stupidly Touchy About It by Santosh Jha (ebook reader android TXT) 📕

So what happens is, for example – A modern educated and liberal woman, who lives and relishes this new-age objectivity and equality in her modern culture and milieu, hugs a male friend causally and does not assign any ‘intimacy-element’ to it. For her, this close hug is like men hugging each other. However, men do not usually take it this simple way. They instantly and instinctively start judging this act and behavior and assign ‘value-loaded’ opinions and comments. That is why, there are so many freaky and stupid sounding opinions and judgments coming from men about how modern women dress, talk, present themselves and about their body-language, etc.

Somehow, modern women also tend to be reactive and reactionary over such judgments and opinions. Our dear young women need not be that. We just have to accept how it is a natural and instinctive design of a human brain. Why only men, old and aged women also judge the new women in similar ways. Therefore, we have to be objective and logically smart about all these, which not only women but all of us face in our lives. As we have been insisting throughout in this book, modern empowered women do not have to be touchy and emotionally reactive about the new milieus and new attitudes.

Changes are always a circumspect acceptance for any brain, be it a male or female brain. This judging business is brain’s core competence. Therefore, to be empowered, to be a modern successful man or woman is to be objectively logical and smart about this all. To be successful is to be in easy and poised acceptance of basic and core realism of life and living truths. Once in acceptance mode, this same brain of ours has ease in pattern-acceptance and then judging becomes objective and logical. Let us all be like that.

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CHAPTER 10

As we come to the concluding part of the book, we also need to talk about our mechanism of emotions. Science clearly says, you are what you think and feel you are. Therefore, it has to be accepted that our emotional state of consciousness has got much to do with how we accept ourselves as. Emotions and cognition are inter-dependent realism for us. That is why emotional poise is so crucial for wellness. We can hit the poise if we understand the mechanism of our emotions well. We need to see and accept as why emotionalism usually makes us off target of realism.

We all need to understand why poise of emotions is important in our life-living wellness scheme of things. It is also very important to know why the primary emotions of reward and rejection must not be associated exclusively or predominantly with tangibles of life. We have to accept as why it is ideal to come out of this cognition of emotions of reward and rejection, to get final emancipation (nirvana) from this causality – this cyclicality of gain and loss, reward and rejection.

This emotion of reward and rejection is at the core of ‘deprivation’ and ‘alienation’ feelings and that is why a detailed understanding of the emotional mechanism of our body-mind structures shall help us in a big way to deftly decipher true empowerment.

It is important to understand and accept that most behavior and actions of average people are aimed at attaining or restoring overall poise of wellness. However, the actual choices depend mostly on how an individual subjectively perceives his or her life situation and what emotions shape or guide his or her choices. For example, a man, even in poor health, may opt for working more hours in office, instead of taking proper rest, if he perceives that he needs more money for better education of his kids.

Science says, ‘you are in your perspectives and your perspectives are in you’. This means, what and how an individual perceives his or her actual and real life situation can be very subjective. This is true with our perceptions about all things and life situations. It has to be understood that any cognitive factor of wellness and ‘empowered-feeling’ is also subject to emotional interpretation. Like; income and wealth as key cognitive factors for wellness and empowered feeling are important but only up to a limit after which it rather has negative impact.

However, what actually is the optimum level of income and wealth is a subjective and emotional decision, given also the fact that we all live in a modern environment where income and wealth disparities are huge. Only 5 percent of global population owns 95 percent of wealth. This contemporary clutter culture has loads of such chaos, conflict and confusion, which irrationally affect choices of behaviors.

In such an environment, decision-making is more tilted towards emotional rather than logical. Scientists confirm that this cognitive-conundrum is biological, part of our body-mind mechanism. Science says, confusion and chaos makes one emotional in thinking and decision-making, as limbic system is activated. So, emotions make the fine-line between optimum and maximum blurred. This prompts risky behavior, even though the behavior is instinctively towards restoring or attaining the equilibrium of wellness.

First objective hypothesis seems to be that – the contemporary clutter culture is a dysfunctional and debilitating realism as it makes most of us land in chaos, conflict and confusion. Even scientists like Stephen Hawking have raised alarm over this. This clutter culture and resultant conflicts in turn lands us in a charged up emotional state, affecting our logical and appropriate decision-making, as it blurs our perceptions about actualism of realism.

Contemporary times are defined more by ‘reactionary-priorities’ of people, in action and behavior choices. Much of it can be ascribed to clutter culture. Emotionalism almost always leads to reactionary choices. This has cyclic calamity for society and cultures.

Yes, emotions are good when you are in love and wish to optimize the joy of drift in the ocean of intimacy. However, you need never be ‘emotional’, while deciding about who is the right love-partner for you. In decision-making on major life-living issues, emotions always land you in unreal situation. In such important decisions like ‘Who I Am’ and ‘How Can I Be Empowered’, it is crucial that we shun emotionalism and settle down for objective, logical and poised consciousness.

When you have opted consciously for a non-action or inaction positioning for your action-behavior, it is good if you ask your emotions to lead your pleasures. This is good because, everything is in ‘internalized-mode’ and you are in a singular and non-competitive time and space. However, when you opt for actionable decision-making choices, you need to be objective and logical. This necessitates dropping your emotionalism and accepting elements presented for your decision-making in high objectivity and holism. Emotionalism is personal, subjective and very individualistically partial. Whereas; most of the crucial life-living decisions, must always be based on holism.

The clutter culture affects our consciousness negatively and this in turn affects our cognition. Naturally, affected consciousness and illogical cognitions throws us in the deep oceans of bad and calamitous causality. If emotionalism leads us to blurred perceptions, it is for sure, we land ourselves in bad judgments and then, our own wellness is compromised.

Second core fact emanates out of the first. That is; when the crucial 3Cs – Consciousness, Cognition and Causality are hit by another 3Cs – Chaos, Conflict and Confusion, we begin to lose the Sense of Appropriateness of self-awareness, self-control and self-actualization. That is why we begin to perceive some good and right things as bad and wrong and the vice-versa. This confusion adds to the conflict.

Often, it seems, genius is all about being infallibly dogmatic about utility of one’s ability for fallibility....! There is always a popularly defined benchmark of ‘success’ and ‘utility’. Most people do not have the courage of conviction to do or accept anything beyond it as anything outside this populism is considered a fallibility. This emotionalism about success and utility comes with our partial life view and perspectives.

However, a true genius, almost like a ‘stupid’, seems in happy and unbending acceptance of his or her fallibility as he or she is not thinking about success or failure but just the intangible joy and thrill of the hypothesis, which he has accepted for his or her pursuits of purpose.

Acceptance of fallibility, as primary signpost of success, is like being your own God. The moment you rise above this humanly populist concerns of success and failure, which the contemporary populism benchmarks, you become happily independent of God. Why? Just because, divinity for average humanity is largely about the cultural business of right and wrong as well as success and failure. As this facilitative situation happens for you, your consciousness is free and road to genius is easy and smooth.

The happy position for a genius is that he or she has risen above the populist utility of action as human attainment. The genius is true and aligned only to his or her own Imaginative Inactionability. This hypothesis is so mystically marvellous. Just try to free yourself of action-oriented mindset and perspectives, just try to accept this simple hypothesis that fallibility is all about not being aligned to your own inner intuitive imaginations and see the magic unravel. Failure is about doing something, which is aimed at attaining something outside you. Success is about undoing this attitudinal slavery of doing...!

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Accept My Gratitude

Writing something is a daunting task as there is always a lurking apprehension of it not being of utility for some readers. I however feel at ease, because of my faith in magnanimity of readers. I am happily sure; you shall forgive if my efforts could not be up to your expectations. Thank you so much for being with me and allowing me to share with you. Wish you an empowered life; with the prosperity of the consciousness.

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About The Author

People say, what conspire to make you what you finally become are always behind the veil of intangibility. Someone called it ‘Intangible-Affectors’. Inquisitiveness was the soil, I was born with and the seeds, these intangible-affectors planted in me made me somewhat analytical. My long stint in media, in different capacities as journalist, as brand professional and strategic planning, conspired too! However, I must say it with all innocence at my behest that the chief conspirators of my making have been the loads of beautiful and multi-dimensional people, who traversed along me, in my life journey so far. The mutuality and innocence of love and compassion always prevailed and magically worked as the catalyst in my learning and most importantly, unlearning from these people. Unconsciously, these amazing people also worked out to be the live theatres of my experiments with my life’s scripts. I, sharing with you as a writer, is essentially my very modest way to express my gratitude for all of them. In my stupidities is my innocence of love for all my beautifully worthy conspirators!

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