I Am A Woman And Not Stupidly Touchy About It by Santosh Jha (ebook reader android TXT) 📕

The hapless asks the arrived, ‘Are you not mad, are you serious, anyway, how to do it?’ The sayer usually smiles and moves away. Some would just say, ‘Do not do, just be’. The hapless remains confused, conflicted and is convinced, the wisdom man is surely mad and prays God to help him out of his debauchery!

The journey from dualism to non-dualism is very tough, religion as well as science says, it is not amenable and available for everyone, it is only for a few blessed ones! This is, they say, not ordinary but ordained by almighty! Mechanism confirms, brain structure and consciousness varies and it decides the ordinary and ordained. Debates apart, the wisdom however says, ‘Talent is important but what makes a genius is ‘practice’ not patronage. The teachers, the gurus and wise have said, ‘The real master is perseverance of practice’.

Arriving is all about mind training to lead the consciousness to a certain positioning or situationalism. As this happens, the dualism goes away as it is then clear that what the greats have been talking about the wisdom seems contradictory but actually, both the conflicting options, though looking mutually exclusive, are and remain simultaneously available. Check this:

God says, ‘Stop seeing me, you shall see’. God says, ‘Stop searching me, you shall find’. Now, there are semantic conflations also in these words, apart from the dualism, which is purely a mind and consciousness positioning. Semantically, the words tell you that actually you are caught between two simultaneous actions and that is why you do not arrive at either of the two. When you are seeing or searching, you are amid two actions – the effort of seeing and searching and second is the act of seeing and searching. And, you are not clear as what you actually want – to see or search, as the dualism itself throws at you so many probable options of realism.

From the perspective of mind dualism, the same is happening. You are amid two. The mechanism tells us that when we are in a search or looking, there are two things happening to us – first the search and second the seeing. We see so many things and naturally the brain processes all colors and shapes we see and throws to us multiple options for value-summation or what we call our subjective decision as what we find and see is actually what we think we are looking for or not.

The prescription of wisdom is also susceptible to the conflation of dualism and usually, people land on the wrong and transitional side of the wisdom, which actually shows us the absolute perspective through a transitional shade of consciousness. The prescription says, it seems, to opt for an action or non-action. Actually, it is not. It just says to be aware of both the simultaneous forces and use them to arrive.

For example, a lover says to his beloved, ‘I would say only what pleases you to the extent that if you prefer to call a day as night, I would too!’ There is a huge semantic as well as mental dualism in this positioning. Most people accept things and even mark them as benchmark for ‘true’ love and divinity. This looks like what wisdom says, ‘Don’t do, just be’. It seems to suggest, when you love or you seek God, you should not question but simply accept!

The dualism has to be understood. The lover says, ‘for me right and wrong is not important, what is, is your joy as I love you’. Similar is deemed true for God’s love. What other aspect, the meaning which the lines convey may be, ‘love has positioned me to defer the issue of right and wrong as primary is your joy, the righteousness can wait’. What it also conveys is, ‘my accepting or rejecting a right or wrong is not in my hand as right or wrong shall be what they are irrespective of my viewpoint, what is in my hand and I am very happy to do it is, I accept what you say as I truly love you’.

More importantly, what it may actually mean is, ‘it is actually a first step towards the realization and arriving at right or wrong because, when I accept your viewpoint, I take the first necessary step towards assimilation and as and when you and me assimilate, there shall never be two minds and two consciousness. This is the time when we together shall see day as day and night as night. It is just a transitional but primary step that I am so happily accepting as I love you’.

You and me cannot find or search a God or a love. It is there in whatever shape, color or positioning irrespective of my semantic and mental confusion about what and how God and love is. We get God and love not by finding or searching for it but by stopping doing it as this leads us to be assimilated in God and Love as both are in everything and everywhere. The dualism stops and non-dualism is arrived.

The beloved must understand, where and what is love. If she thinks that a true love is only that which says and accepts what she says and accepts, then she is actually denying and drifting away from love. Love is not in seeing and searching what you think is there for you. It is where it is irrespective of you and your love. Stop doing it and you get love.

Of course, the blame is not on the beloved. The cultured mind and the mechanism of brain has to do with it. Things become very difficult for a mind after the age of 25 to attune and align itself towards a completely new and alien value and belief system. That is why, goodness has to be ingrained in early childhood and adolescent.

Stop doing it to get love is not easy. This comes from painful and persevered practice. In every and all aspects of your pursuit and endeavors, this dualism would attract you to make you adrift. You shall have to practice hard to understand the undercurrent of dualism and then use the energy of this dualism in arriving at the non-dualism.

Sadly enough, people do not have either the mental willingness or strength to accept the utility and fruition of this painful and prolong process of practice. That is why the non-dualism is so rare. Dualism triumphs in this world as it is easy and amenable to average brain and resolve. There have always been greats who have told ‘right’ things to humanity, but it is always met with disbelieve and distrust.

The non-dualistic wisdom often gets the label of it being debauch and hypocritical as most people cannot understand the semantic and mental conflation of the dualism. Secondly, even if they get close to it, they would seldom go beyond a lover’s acceptance to a beloved’s ‘preference’. The beloved would be happy that she has a lover who accepts her blindly and then, she happily ‘stops’ there and, as her ingenuity would prompt her, she would use all the above mentioned wisdom in the defense of her action.

It is not the ignorance, which is the worst enemy of humanity. Actually, there is nothing called ‘ignorance’ in this world full of humans. What we have everywhere and loads of it is ‘subjective intelligence’. ‘Nothing’ is not such a bad proposition at all. What is calamitous for humanity is subjective intelligence; the personalized somethingness, and the ingenuity to prove it as the cosmic and global wisdom for all.

This has done the most damaging thing for humanity. Love and Godliness has become extinct. What we all have now is the ‘search’ and ‘seeing’ of Love and God. Everyone is in the lookout for Love and God, they cease to be on earth, way back, let us say for convenience!

… we can say, similar is the contemporary realism about empowerment and agenda of feminism. As and when we see, understand and accept the dualism of ‘Don’t be, you shall be’ prescription of the wise, we shall arrive.

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CHAPTER 9

Human brain is a busy businessperson! Somehow, it has to be. This stupid 1.2 kilogram plexus of trillions of cells has a business empire, which covers all spaces of the world and all concerns of all times. Every second, thousands of sensory inputs are being fed to the brain and like a true and smart businessperson, the brain has to keep track of all incoming and outgoing information and also, do something, for which it has been designed and evolved since last 4 million years; that is – Pattern building…!

 Human brain is brilliant at pattern building. New sets of information keep trickling in, because the external environment always keeps changing, and as a result; brain has to process the new information to create sense and pattern for appropriate behavior and actions. The new patterns of information are matched with old ones and then, the brain does something, which most of us do to others but hate to accept for ourselves.

That is – Judging.

Judging other’s behavior and actions is a result of matching new patterns of information with old ones. Judging is primary intelligence for all of us. Even if we consciously try to avoid it, our brain does it as auto-mode routine.

Instinctively, we tend to judge those things more and more intently where things are changing fast. Human mind has little business with static milieus, where things are not changing and brain is settled with its old pattern, which it has once created and processed well. However, brain automatically tunes to those info which are new and happen because of changes in the milieus. As brain does it, judging has to happen.

In contemporary culture, things are happening fast and change is the buzz word. Everywhere – be it society, culture, economy, politics or faith system, change is the keyword and therefore, brain is flooded with new info, which it constantly matches with old established patterns and therefore, modern brain is judging most.

In modern times, therefore, the most pro-active and reactive judging is happening for women and their world as things are changing most and that too immensely fast in women’s world. Also, the human mind, especially the minds of men are sort of wired with old patterns about the women’s world and as new things are happening fast and deep in women’s world, men are judging women the most. Men are judging women and their ways not only most but also very reactively and extremely. This is often alarming as such judgments have the potential of going against the wellness of women and unleash unconscious violence against them – mental as well as physical.

Men are judging everything about the new women and their new world of liberty and equality. The women empowerment has led the male brain resort to reactionary judgment and this trend signals challenging times for women.

The women of contemporary times do not have to feel threatened but they surely have to accept the realism, which is there and cannot be wished away. As the judging and resultant conflicts and confusion is the result of the way human brain is designed to work, we surely cannot refer to it as a ‘law and order’ crisis or ‘sick mentality’. Modern women just have to accept this realism objectively and work their way out to objectively logical ‘appropriate’ action/behavior.

The idea, which needs to be accepted is – human brain does not like fast changes as it accepts change as inimical to survival. Therefore, collective male consciousness feels threatened by the new liberalized and uninhibited behavior/action of modern women. Not only average men, rather highly educated and even