I Am A Woman And Not Stupidly Touchy About It by Santosh Jha (ebook reader android TXT) 📕

As against the entity of ‘Identity’, which engenders the critical question of ‘Who I Am’, the core idea and idealism of ‘Personality’ shapes up the more important and beneficial question of ‘How I Am’. Often, we hate to accept it but the reality is that this ‘I’ itself is the biggest mystery of humanity and from birth to death, this ‘I’ stands as primary culprit of all stupidities of life and living. And as if, this was not enough, we have loads of stupidly emotional identities, from our birth to death, which either we are born with or align with. Therefore, this ‘Who I Am’ comes with many identities, which this ‘I’ seldom decides, often subconsciously wears and then gets unconsciously shaped up.

So, years before the ‘Self’ acquires consciousness and personality of any sort, the person born, gets loaded with multitude of identities, the burden of which he or she carries till death. Like, a child is born an American, a girl, a white, a Californian, a certain baseball team supporter as her dad is, a Christian, etc. Much later, may be 12-15 years from the birth, this girl shall evolve to have the beginning of her own personality making initiatives, which shall design the idea of ‘How She Is’; but already, the idea of ‘Who She Is’ has shaped her subconscious and unconscious mind, as she is born with a certain package of identities.

Almost always, this question of ‘How I Am’ is more important and more related to our overall wellness and personal excellence than this question of ‘Who I Am’. The personality issue is more crucial and critical for wellness than identity. This we all need to see, understand and accept. Who cares if I am an American or African, if I am white or black? However, it is concern for all and also primarily for self if I am good, right, amiable and compassionate. Yes, being a white or black or brown may have different social meaning and even benefits or loss for me but then, it surely is not ‘mine’ as I have definitively not done anything to deserve it or not deserve it…!

Very interestingly, as against the populist notion, the idea and idealism of ‘Empowerment’ is about ‘Unlearning’ the stupidities of ‘Identities’, which get sedimented in our subconscious and unconscious mind layers, since we are born with them or get associated with them, following or rather aping the populist perceptions and trends. Empowerment is about ‘I’ and this ‘I’ is what I decide, that too very consciously and never subconsciously and unconsciously. Often, personality is personal enterprise and its gains, however, identities usually are sort of gratuitous accruals; some sort of freebies…

If I am a woman, it is always ‘I’, which shall decide for me ‘How I Am A Woman’ and not the stupid identities shall decide me. Womanhood may well be a generic identity but what ‘I’ accept ‘womanhood’ and ‘empowerment’ as, is definitively a conscious and judicious enterprise of the ‘power’ or energy, which ‘I’ acquire through personal initiatives.

That is why, a modern empowered woman shall always insist on the question of ‘How I Am’ – the conscious personality positioning. The modern empowered woman shall definitively ‘Unlearn’ the unwanted elements in her generic identity, which unnecessarily colors the question of ‘Who I Am’. No doubt, this identity of ‘Being A Woman’ is a blessing in itself but then, ‘How I Am A Woman’ is the question, which only the conscious mind of a personality-driven woman shall decide.

Interestingly, this very question of ‘Who I Am’ may always have multitude of mutually competing and conflicting answers, bordering abstractions. However, this core question of ‘How I Am’ always has singular and unemotionally objective and logical answer. I may be a man or woman, American or African, White or Black, Rich or Poor, Christian or Buddhist; but I am always a good, right, amicable, honest, sincere and compassionate person, transcending all my generic identities. This shall never change for ‘I’ – my singular constant personality; even if ‘Who I Am’ may get stupidly associated with multitude of battle-inducing identities…

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...For Finality Of Fruition

It is not that people await good times, the good times also await good people to come and hoist the potential seeded in the soil of future. Good words also wish for good readers, to be in reception of and be in linearity of the innocent intent, which ride on the shoulders of the words, for the finality of their fruition...

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… On Navigation And Expression Of Intent

There has to be a humble admittance – Any word, however well meant and well spelt, is a possible suspect of misinterpretation. There is a simple reason. People are in different consciousnesses and culturally as well as personally inclined to a specific value-summation of utilities. As a writer, it is a huge temptation to take liberties, with not only imaginations but also with the words, as against their common and popular use. Do kindly accept my latitude with language and personal coinages of words, as I understand, many times, they may not conform to popular usages. I share with you whatever is part of my consciousness. All wisdoms say, what stays with you is what sinks in. Wisdom is what we internalize. I share with you whatever I have internalized in my life. This may not be mainstream stuff; but may have utility in some meaningful way. I believe, as a reader, you shall enjoy this novelty and pleasant awkwardness of the writing.

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Thanks For Your Magnanimity, The First Chapter Begins...

CHAPTER 1

Human perception is innately and instinctively oriented towards emotional perception of realism and this in turn leads many of us to believe and accept ‘abstractions’ of realism, which is not purely truth but a precarious mix of Truth and Illusions – Trullusions…!

As we talked earlier, human cognition is equally at ease with both facts as well as fictions in the milieu and if someone’s consciousness is not aware, it can easily align to acceptance of Trullusions. As this is something wired in our mechanism, we can accept, it is primary human stupidity and all aware person need to unlearn it fast. We are talking as why this is more an emergent task at hand for modern empowered women.

This trullusion-living must end… we are not living in ancient archaic world of illusions! We live in 21st century of a new millennium, which is marked by a new empowerment, initiated and installed by singularly logical factualism of objective science and neutral technology – bereft of the cumbersome baggage of emotional and subjective ‘perceptions’. Naturally, the singular call for the young men and women living in the new millennium is to ‘unlearn’ fast, the ‘Trullusions’, which still lingers as vestiges of archaic subconscious an collective unconscious mind domains of the brain states.

Somehow, most stupidities of human life-living essentially emanate out of our body-mind mechanism and as it is broadly and majorly common for men and women, most stupidities are universal – beyond any reasonable shade of gender conflict. Therefore, what needs to be done to unlearn these stupidities, which form the core of self-actualization process, holding the critical element for new millennium empowerment, are gender-neutral – common for men and women!

This new millennium ‘empowerment’ about life-living realism, based on ‘facts’ and not ‘trullusions’, must be our singular benchmark of all acceptances. This is a must for all, especially women. If all social utilities and cultural righteousness are tangible and intangible expressions of ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ of women in individuality as well as collectivity, then new millennium women must objectively and unemotionally know and accept what actually is empowerment, which alone can lead to the doorway of true happiness and success.

… Women may hold half the heaven but they definitively do shape and symmetritize almost everything on earth…!

No doubt, if the wise of the world are saying that this world is becoming a better space for life and living; we must accept that this is because, many of us are evolving as objective and holistic personalities; rising above our viscerally emotional stupidities of abstractive perception-based realism-acceptance…!

Globally, the primary focus, when we talk about women empowerment, is the violence against women. This includes not only crimes against women but all forms of aggressions and violence – physical as well as mental, which stand as biggest impediments in women’s acceptability as equal in social and economic domains. This problem remains in developed as well as developing societies with varying shades and degrees.

Essentially, the bare basic in any idea of empowerment is a neutralized milieu, where there is fearlessness of movement and reasonably minimal neutral restriction for free-fearless movement. Globally, most milieus are considered ‘restrictive’ for women, especially because of fear-factor of impending violence and crimes against women. Therefore, any talk of womanhood and empowerment must first address the issue of this element of violence against women in all milieus in modern world.

Now, when we talk about objectivity and holism, we mean – If we have a problem, we need to do two things –

Not accept what the media, masses and social voices tell about the problem but be inquisitive enough to individually ‘dissect’ the problem into smallest possible details and drain down the ‘slices of truths’ and ‘subjective perceptions’ about it, so that actual objective face of trouble is percolated and understood…

Based on objective, logical and holistic ‘truth’ of the problem, settle for non-emotional and grassroots elements, which could go in a definitive way towards the solution of the problem…

Now, apply this formula to the problem of crime and violence against women.

When we see and accept the global trends in Crime And Violence Against Women in different nations, developed and underdeveloped, in differently cultured societies, then only we can have ‘true picture’ of the problem and then only we can understand the true reasons for this problem.

Once this happens, we shall see and accept how media and populist ‘trullusions’ about the problem of Crime And Violence Against Women is being ‘sliced up’ for abstract and emotionally defocused populist acceptance of the problem. Naturally, this sways individual judgment, especially the perception and judgments of young women. Surely, the solutions too become sliced up and evade holism…!

The primary singular objectively logical intelligence in assessment of any problem, including this problem of crime and violence against women is –

Humans are definitively NOT born intelligent but absolutely instinctive, guided primarily by their visceral drives like hunger, sex, selfish survival, joy maximizations, etc. In that sense, humans, in their innate visceral ‘avtaar’ are very similar to their close cousins, the gorilla, with whom, we humans share 99% of our genes. A human is human, better than ape and gorilla, only when he or she evolves through objective education and learning, to override his or her innate instincts. This is primary empowerment – qualifying to be a human, bettering our animalistic viscerality. However, given the state of poverty, intellectual misery, poor availability of right education and general socio-cultural chaos; a vast majority of humans are truly still apes and gorilla. The human mechanism of decision-making on his or her action and behavior is primarily instinctive, seldom ‘intellectual’. Only a handful humans have the empowered and evolved consciousness to act and behave on the basis of ‘thoughtful & righteous’ decision-making, overriding instinctive drives of hunger, sex, survival selfishness and joy maximizations. That is why, stupidity, reactionary visceral priorities, hypocrisy, selfishness, self-indulgence, base consumptive joys, etc come natural and over-encompassingly to most humans. And, this is gender-neutral – makes no difference between man and woman. However, since men are having a world, where they have larger muscle and more maneuvering space, men’s visceral stupidities are far greater and more entrenched than that of women. And, that is why, in contemporary