Be Lonely, Be Your Best by Santosh Jha (good books to read for 12 year olds TXT) 📕

very start, we emphasized this need to stop, opt for this golden freedom of choice to pull out of the clutter culture and start to take the road to this calming, endowed and beneficial space of loneliness. This shall trigger off a very meaningfully empowering causality. Loneliness readies us to the attainment of our overall homeostasis, which in turn makes us have a very well-shaped and logical 3Cs of consciousness, cognition and causality. We shall then be having an empowered consciousness, life-living wellness and personal excellence. Let us welcome loneliness as a brilliant causality of overall wellness.

I think, as we have accepted the utility of this notion of causality of overall homeostasis with wellness, I invite you to another very important and beneficial causality between wellness, success in love and homeostasis. It promises to be very interesting and highly useful causality to unravel the worth and utility of loneliness. We deal with it in next chapter.

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Like Love, Loneliness Is Also Potential

For Attaining Homeostatic Wellness

Sciences may not be in a position right now to tell us in perfect details as why and how, what happens in love. However, there are huge research-backed substantiations explaining lot many aspects of the purely physical and bio-chemical mechanisms and processes of love, as human mind handles them. This surely takes away lots of mysticism, magic and marvel out of the age-old notion of love and archetypal imagery of love in society. It is hugely helpful in clearing the mist of confusion and chaos around the very core idea of love.

The dualism of love, which causes confusion, is actually the root cause of why such a beautifully powerful and beneficial facility called love becomes a cause of pain and trouble. When we do not understand the mechanism of something very clearly, mysticism is bound to creep in and it shall unleash the destructive energy of confusion. We need to understand the mechanism of love in scientifically explained terms to enhance the joy of love.

The mechanism of mind, explained in terms of detailed neurochemical and neuroelectrical processes in pure scientific traditions may not be suitable for all of us. Therefore, what we shall talk about here is just an outline and simplified description of the mechanism. We are basically trying to weave causality between homeostasis and love. This we do to come to a very useful realization that homeostasis, or overall poise of life in general is at the very core of all things good and beautiful in our lives. If this poise is there, everything is joyous, if not; the same thing becomes a scary source of pain and regret.

What we are attempting to bring out from our discussion is the dualism inherent in the mechanism and processes of love, as human mind handles it. We also need to accept that it is not something which science is telling us now. Thousands of years back, great minds of spiritualism and philosophy have told similar facts about consciousness, the cardinal position of love in it and the dualism, which consciousness faces about the emotional positioning of love and other intangibles.

Human mind is where all mysticisms emanate and end. The multilayered mechanisms of mind is one huge mystery, humanity has been attempting to unravel since thousands of years. The spiritualism and philosophy have given its own interpretation. Science has taken over and presented great facts about mind mechanism, its structure and functions and this has led humanity to understand lot many things about consciousness. This facilitates other learning.

Human brain is the central mechanism for ensuring the survival and excellence of human body and it has to be accepted that the conscious and subconscious mind accepts and expresses almost everything in terms of its primary and pivotal role of ensuring a mechanism for survival and excellence. This interpretation of human mind looks quite demeaning as we all are inclined to accept ourselves as something big and a lofty; a special creation of God. Accepting ourselves as an entity, with base idea of survival is revolting. That is why, science says, ‘the idea of a self, in objecting terms is often pitted against the self itself, which we have been used to accepting subjectively since thousands of years.’

Just for knowing the mechanism, we need to accept that human mind ensures this survival and excellence through a continuous and complicated maintenance of a process called homeostasis – better understandable as ‘poise’. We have already discussed homeostasis process and realism in details. All wisdoms, old or new, since thousands of years, have talked about the importance of this idea called ‘poise’, explained in terms of philosophy and spiritualism. Science unravels its physiological, bio-chemical and psychosomatic aspects.

In lower organisms, the homeostasis or poise is only physiological and biological but as human mechanism is very complex, human mind has to perform a complex and multidimensional homeostasis. In humans, the poise also has to be bio-sociological, psychological, emotional, environmental, spiritual as well as volitional. We are talking about this all because, love has to do specifically with this homeostasis thing and the trouble it creates also emanates from this.

There are sufficient scientific researches to establish that when people are in true love and absolute intimacy, their overall homeostasis is in great shape and this reflects in their healthy state of mind and body as well as behaviour-action. We are talking not only about intimate couple love but love in general. The reverse has also been established as researches show, when people are in instable and unsettled love elements, their body gets affected and they land in serious body-mind dysfunction and even death.

Science has also established that most of the behaviour-action of humans is instinctive and intuitive. Even the learned behaviour, the nurture part, in time becomes part of instinctive behaviour and nature. The simple idea is – almost everything, which our conscious and subconscious mind accepts and expresses, has to be in consonance and conformity with the larger homeostasis, which is essential for survival and excellence.

The conscious as well as the subconscious minds operates in a way, which is mystical for most of us as most operations and processes are intangible and we are mostly oblivious of it. That is also why, love, which is a very potent, cardinal and critical element of behavioural and emotional expression of our consciousness, remains in the mist of mysticism, magic and marvel.

However, we all can now understand the mechanism of this mysticism of love consciousness and come out of the veil of mysticism, standing tall on the ground of practical and tangible realism. This we can do by understanding how essentially our larger consciousness is an intangible expression of homeostasis process and how love is the strongest and most authoritative voice of this consciousness; seeking perpetuity of poise – the larger homeostasis.

The process of making of consciousness, which stays with us lifelong starts even when we are in mother’s womb. The sense of self or to say, the question as ‘who I am’, starts to take shape when in womb, as the child gets the feel of sounds and vibrations around. The unconscious mind of child starts accepting these elements of his immediate milieu as part of its homeostasis requirements. Science admits; a newborn child is designed to be born as a genius. It readies itself for the environment outside the womb by imbibing the signals it receives inside the womb. That is why; modern couples start the education of their kids well in the womb itself. This itself was some knowledge, ancient people knew about!

From the day first, the human child is instinctively loaded with one facility, which helps him or her evolve his or her self – the subjective consciousness. This facility is instinctive inquisitiveness – the insatiable inclination to know. This desire also seems to be a beautiful expression of the homeostasis mechanism of body-mind consciousness. The mind can maintain poise only when it incessantly updates information about the surrounding environment and makes prompt decisions about the utility of the information for maintaining homeostasis.

It is here the trouble seems to start for humanity. The instinctive inquisitiveness, this wired curiosity about ambient milieus, the need to know as part of homeostasis mechanism, exposes the mind to loads of multiplicity of information in the larger environment. As subconscious mind of the child starts to accept and adopt most of them as essential for his homeostasis, he or she becomes unconsciously predisposed to these information and they become part of his or her larger consciousness, which science refers to as love/belief system. The best example of this predisposition of love/belief system is why most men and women would boast that their mothers cook this or that food the best. We are first exposed to our mothers and her choices. That is why what is our primary love/belief system is what our mothers gave to us.

Even before a child grows up to become an adult, he or she already accepts thousands of beliefs – of his or her parents, family, peer groups, society, cultures and nation. However, most of these beliefs are based on his or her personal and subjective interpretations of experiences, inferences, assumptions, probabilities, deductions, inductions, and loads of oversimplifications, which the subconscious mind is expert at making. Most of these beliefs are very much part of the subconscious mind and continue to present themselves as potent referrals for conscious mind even years after. We all have heard people saying, an adult’s love is very much a reflection of what he or she got in childhood. We all know, a love-deficit childhood engenders an adult with troubled love life.

All these beliefs, which a child acquires, form part of the self, the subjective consciousness, about which we always keep asking question as ‘who I am’. Our subconscious mind starts building an image of self and this process expresses itself in mystically intangible ways. We unconsciously start extending the limits of our ‘self-image’ in things and beliefs around us. It starts with we identifying with our body first, then with our mind, our family, friends, neighbours, teachers, partners, the special someone and later with our career, assets, ethnicity, nationality, gender etc.

As we grow in life, we identify more with ideas and issues. All these are expression of our self, the consciousness. That is why we said earlier that culture is a very strong influence on a person’s consciousness and as the contemporary clutter culture has exposed the young human minds with wrong cognitive and causality entities, our overall homeostatic equilibrium or wellness is now in jeopardy. All these realism we have come to know as scientists have begun to understand how brain works. If we read about brain mechanism, we shall find that human brain shapes in a way, which ensures that men and women learn most things between 12 to 25 years of age and it becomes very tough for them to unlearn something wrong or dysfunctional, which unconsciously becomes part of their learning.

We adopt the love/belief system in our minds and guard them very ferociously as if they were part of our self. We fight over our people and beliefs like we fight for our dear life and well-being. It is because, they are part of our self, our consciousness, our homeostatic equilibrium and anything against them threatens our homeostatic poise, our general sense of survival. This makes us react fiercely. This is mystical. We may think, we are fighting for the cause of our dear ones or dear beliefs but essentially, we are fighting for our own survival, which is expressed in terms of homeostasis.

We all know how people feel so strongly about their family, loved ones, ethnicity and nationality. People go to the extent of sacrificing their lives for the dear cause of family and even nation. It is very simple to understand why people do not think twice, giving up their lives for lovers and even something as vague as loss of their favourite football club or favourite celebrity icons. People commit suicide even