Be Lonely, Be Your Best by Santosh Jha (good books to read for 12 year olds TXT) 📕

It can device a series of questions, which shall essentially be his or defence against the change you want. His or her subconscious mind shall create all possible patterns of action-behaviour to ensure he or she wins against your suggestion for change. Homeostasis needs to always win for survival.

The person would ask:

Why is there a need for me to change, I am doing perfectly fine!

Why should you ask me to change, can’t you accept me as I am?

Why should I change and even if I have, why should I listen to you?

Oh! Do you think you are God! Even God cannot ask me that!

Why should I change if I am not convinced there is something wrong about it?

If I have to change, only I shall decide, no one has the right to judge me.

I am open to change but only for someone who first accepts me as I am.

I would change only for someone who loves me blindly.

I accept changes but it would be tough as I was made this way.

Give me time, I am a not good at it! Etc.

The general refrain of most people in love is, “why cannot you accept me as I am. The God accepts me and loves me the way I am, good or bad. Why can’t you? Are you greater than God? Love never puts conditions!” Etc.

Remember, the more intelligent a person is, more artistic and ingenious shall be his or her advocacy against change. More unsettled, ephemeral and indecisive one’s overall homeostasis is, more intense and vocally demonstrative he or she shall be in love. However, it shall be tougher for you to change him or her and shall be equally demonstrative in denying changes.

This dualism needs to be understood. The unsettled homeostasis makes one to seek love more intensely, desperately and sincerely. Such love is usually highly demonstrative and aggressively centrifugal. Love is the emotion of search for larger wellness homeostasis and people, who have larger need for wellness poise, shall be very intense, highly possessive and overwhelming in love. This initially suits love needs of both the partners.

Everyone loves to be smothered and submerged in love’s intensity and its mystically disproportionate multidimensionality. However, this is the seed of big trouble-tree of love. If we wish to be swept away by the storm of love, we need also to be ready of the calamitous fallouts of this storm.

Love in its pure and pious form is never passionate but always compassionate. True love is a well-poised consciousness positioning, an innate state of settled internal wellness, and seldom in need of passionate and demonstrative expressions. Love’s expression is like systemic serenity of song and dance staged within a person’s consciousness. You shall come to relish and feel at peace with his or her innate song-dance positioning, without that person saying anything to you.

The higher consciousness, in compassionate possession of the settled wellness of love shall be calm and composed like a deep ocean and blue sky. Such a person shall be widely accommodative, assimilative and integrative towards everything, like an ocean and sky. Compassion only assimilates; passion can often drift in the storm of disproportionate demonstrations of love.

To sum up, what we talked about love and homeostasis is aimed at understanding how love, or for that matter all our intimate relationships are very much a function of very subjective consciousness, its diverged cognition and causality.

Our relationships, which we all value so much is crucial for our wellness needs but they are expressions of the subjective consciousness and its subjective interpretation of homeostatic equilibrium.

That is why; ultimately, what stands out as the most important thing is our own consciousness and its empowerment to hit the road to homeostatic poise. If we are in poise, if our consciousness has evolved to the stage of higher consciousness, where our cognition and causality is defined by our stabilized homeostatic equilibrium and wellness, we shall be in happy relationships and true love. Similar is the situation with solitude and loneliness.

That is why we have been insisting all along that all realism starts and end with you and realism within you. Nothing external to you has any meaning and utility to your wellness. All successes, all worth and utilities are engrained within you. Your own internalized poise is the primary success. All other successes follow that.

And for this success to happen, you have to evolve your higher consciousness. The contemporary clutter culture essentially disturbs your homeostatic equilibrium and that is why you shall be in very happy and beneficial space, if you avail the golden freedom to opt out of the clutter culture. This then opens the doors to the primary launch pad of overall wellness and personal excellence – that is your loneliness.

This loneliness is the primary stage, a launch pad to the ultimate positioning of your consciousness to attain kaivalya – the onlyness.

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Brainwaves Realism, Metacognitive Bliss

And Presupposition Of Loneliness

There is something about science, which makes so many people feel uncomfortable about it. No doubt, at times, when we are faced with so much of raw objectivity, served by many scientific perspectives, we think it is so very unromantic and rough edged. It happens especially when we talk about our own bodies and mind, as we are culturally trained to accept ourselves as something very subjectively, often with a romantically hypothetical ways, which gels well with our arcane sense of beauty and bliss. Science often is unemotionally objective.

That is why accepting ourselves as a system of neurons and chemicals is a bad imagery, not symmetrical to our romanticized imagery of the self. Science however accepts that we are essentially what our brain is and our brains are essentially a neuro-chemical mechanism. At the root of all our thoughts, emotions and behaviours is the communication between neurons within our brains. Brainwaves are produced by synchronised electrical pulses from masses of neurons communicating with each other.

This concept of brainwaves is very new and hugely helpful in understanding so many very crucial things about us, our lives and life realism. When we understand the brainwaves and use the notion in relation with loneliness issues, we shall see that how brilliantly it is unravelled to us that loneliness as a life-living choice lands us in a very beneficial state of our brain positioning, empowering us in so many ways.

You too may be already aware of brainwaves and therefore we are not going into details here about brainwaves but just focus about their role in our lives. It is just a straightforward acceptance that our brainwaves change according to what we’re doing and feeling. It is all about at which speed our brain neurons connect with each other, while doing different things. When slower brainwaves are dominant we can feel tired, slow, sluggish, or dreamy and the vice-versa. The higher frequencies are dominant when we feel wired, or hyper-alert.

We have five brainwaves categories known as beta, alpha, theta, delta and gamma. It has to be accepted that at any point of time, whatever our brain is busy with, all five brainwaves are present but any one of the five may be dominant. The important idea is; science accepts brain as the cornerstone of our very existence and survival. It is very much the core identity of what we popularly accept as self or ‘I’. That is why it is a critical hypothesis that our brains have been designed by millions of years of evolution in such a way that it has everything, which are essential for our survival.

The brainwaves of all five types are also there in our brains for equitable use for different life-living situations, so that we have ease in doing well in all aspects and dimensions of our lives. However, when we are not aware of it, or we in contemporary clutter culture use only a part of the brain facilities, we are bound to land ourselves in troubles. We have already talked as how important it is for our wellness to hit the road to poise and equanimity. We have talked as how most of our life-living troubles in contemporary times are life-styles/choices problems, emanating out of our lasting failure to maintain this poise. Brainwaves concept also hints at the same.

The five brainwaves categories actually pertain to five key states of our life-living roles that we have to perform for our overall wellness. Naturally, our brain does it all and it has been designed for that. The life activities have a chain of works to do and all must be performed for our wellness. So, we are in our daily chores and the beta brainwave does the basic auto-mode action/behaviour roles. We relax and sleep then alpha and delta brainwaves are dominant. However, in our daily routine, we seldom process what in a day’s routine we have received in our brains. Every second loads of neurons are sharing information and we have little time and leisure to organize them. The brain does it when we are in sleep. In the light sleep stage as well as in REM dream stage sleep, theta brainwaves are dominant and it does the rumination and retrospection task for us. However, the most crucial is the gamma brainwaves, which are important for our wellness and is usually missing in our lives. We talk in detail about theta and gamma brain waves.

Science says, theta brainwave is the realm of our subconscious mind. A sense of deep spiritual connection and oneness with the Universe can be experienced when theta brainwave is dominant. Vivid visualizations, great inspiration, profound creativity, exceptional insight, subconscious creativity and intuitions, etc are associated with theta brainwave realm. When in theta brainwave, our senses are withdrawn from the external world and focused on signals and communication originating from within.

Gamma brainwaves are the fastest of brain waves and associated with lateral as well as vertical processing of information from different brain areas. In normal routine activities of beta brainwaves realm, brain processing is usually vertical with little emphasis on lateral thinking. Gamma brainwave passes information rapidly, and as gamma waves are the most subtle of the brainwave frequencies, the mind has to be quiet and in poise to access it. Researchers discovered only recently that gamma brain wave was highly active and dominant when we are in states of universal love, altruism, and the higher virtues. Gamma rhythms modulate perception and higher consciousness. Gamma is also above the frequency of neural firing. This means, it is not the usual role of the brain but an extra ordinary function. The presence of Gamma relates to expanded consciousness and spiritual emergence.

Now, given the description above of the two very important brainwaves – theta and gamma, there is little doubt about two critical facts –

First, so many crucial elements of our wellness, lasting happiness and true empowerments are lined up for us when we are in the brainwaves realm of theta and gamma. Or to say, dominance of theta and gamma brainwaves in our lives are crucial for our empowerment, life-living wellness and personal excellence.

Secondly and most importantly, the incidence of both theta and gamma brainwaves in our lives have a precondition and that is – calm, composure and poise. They presuppose a life choice in which we have to be away and aloof from the external world and focus on internal happenings.

In simple and clear terms, we can accept that our brain has all facilities for our wellness and happiness but there has to be a balance between external and internal attainments. We have been insisting on the poise within for pleasures outside. It is our mechanism, which requires us to have quality and positive lonely time for ourselves. Being lonely is a hugely beneficial facility, which our brain cherishes and values a lot. If we deprive this critical lonely time and space to our brain, we are annihilating our own homeostasis. When we disturb our