Be Lonely, Be Your Best by Santosh Jha (good books to read for 12 year olds TXT) 📕

We have a big task at hand. We understand and accept that evolution is no more the guiding principle of our action and behaviour. We are all well past evolutionary essentials and still carrying many obsolete and even obstructive traits and behaviour patterns of old world. We all need to unlearn such obstructive vestiges and remnants of past.

Loneliness was genetically wired to our consciousness and it had its utility and worth in the past. Loneliness in the past served us a warning signal, as part of the evolutionary simple plan of fight or flight. Our survival depended on collective living in the past but things have changed. We live in a different world with different set of challenges, in which survival has different meaning and survival is no more the core question. The core question is wellness and sanity.

The core question of survival has taken different shades and it is now expressed in terms of wellness and poise of purpose. That is why we too have to unlearn many of our obsolete perspectives. We are still in our obsolete perspectives and that is why these crippling perspectives are in us. We need a new consciousness, which has a new cognition strategy that puts in right and contemporary causality for our larger wellness and personal excellence.

At the very outset, we have to unlearn that loneliness is a dysfunction. We need to unlearn the obsolete perspective that loneliness is a flight sign of mind, urging us to fall back to the crowd of collectivity. We have to accept that loneliness is not the correct wired response of the old brain in contemporary times. This cognition and causality of archaic world has to be unlearned.

The new learning is that loneliness is a conscious choice for self empowerment, not a wired optionlessness. Loneliness is a positive state of mind consciousness, which is required very urgently in contemporary clutter and claustrophobic cultures, to focus on empowered individualistic energies, for overall life-living wellness and personal excellence.

In contemporary world, liberalism and consumerism has created a very powerful individual, who is very competitive and demanding, but he or she has landed in a drift and flux. The raw and core question of survival has been replaced by this brutal competitiveness to be successful, be a celebrity, be happy always, be thrilled all the time and be in the drowning ocean of non-stop instant self-gratification in all times. This cultural and populist benchmark of being successful has now become the new primary drive of survival. This makes people live a life of drift and flux.

This dualism is killing people, mentally and intellectually. There is this mad cultural brouhaha about empowered and endowed individualism and this on the other hand makes individuals a slave of collective chaos, conflict and confusion. We as individuals are no more the victim of our own making. We are victims of the making of a clutter culture, where inappropriate benchmarks of successes, self-worth, utility and righteousness are splitting the individual personality.

We live in times, where cultures and societies are the prime source of disconnect and alienation. It is time for individuals to unlearn this populist perception of true individual and his or her right empowerment.

We need to unlearn the wrong hypotheses about individualism and self. We need to sit focused in our own self to question and re-question the populist hypotheses of successes, self-worth and happiness. We require to challenge the populist and clutter-culture hypotheses of attainments and possessions. We must ask to ourselves, why it is important to be happy all the time? Isn’t grief a realism; an empowering thing too?

We should focus on our deep consciousness and ask the crucial question – why should I not be lonely and feel empowered and be in the pool of wellness and excellence, rather than being in the drift and flux of inappropriate collective benchmarks of success and righteousness?

It has to be accepted that only a higher consciousness of a lonely and focused person, who has this facility of quality leisure for self, who can understand and accept this simple realism that if a hypothesis is wrong, the theory based on such hypothesis can never be right. Populist sense of both loneliness and contemporary benchmarks of successes are based on a wrong hypothesis of individualism and empowerment. This individualism in holistic sense is surely very empowering. However, we have the trouble of accepting the partial and wrong perception of individualism, ingrained in our minds by clutter culture, mass media and celebrity worldview. That is why all those populist theories based on this wrong and inappropriate hypothesis can never be right. We need to understand it in detail.

To understand this dualism of contemporary culture, we need to test the validity of this hypothesis-theory connection by picking up something, which is humanity’s most misunderstood and destructive natural drive. Yes, we are talking about sex and how this entire populist perception about the utility and worth of sex in contemporary clutter culture is flawed, because of wrong hypothesis.

This shall reveal how, even while evolution has stopped, no more a guiding prudence for us; still, we mindlessly carry forward such obsolete and obstructive drives, which are causing us and the cultures a great distress. This is aimed at arriving to this new realism that loneliness is also such a drive, which is crippling us and we all need to unlearn it. We talk about it in detail in next chapter.

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We’ve Outlived Utility Of Instinctive Drives,

Intellect Must Redesign Their Novel Worth

There is this singular and objective hypothesis, which if accepted, paves way for objective understanding of how we humans are what we are. This hypothesis is a result of the scientifically singular understanding of brain functioning, which engenders very powerful insight into how our consciousness works. As this hypothesis about consciousness is accepted, it shall be easy to understand and accept the realism about how we have loads of obsolete and obstructive notions about cognition and causality, which we have uselessly carried forward since ages. This is time to shift to the new cognition and causalities.

It is now to be accepted that we humans are not a logical and intelligent creature, if we do not have a specialized, education, training and sustained practice of good things we have learned. Humans are not born intelligent and logical; rather we are totally reactive, instinctive and intuitive creature. Our behaviours are determined entirely by a multidimensional process of interaction between our various instincts. These instincts are genetically determined neural mechanisms, provided by evolution for action and behaviour. There is no mechanism for intelligence or memory which is separate from sensory, motor and instinct mechanisms.

The untrained and uneducated human is totally instinctive and not capable of objective reasoning or proper cultural behaviour under complex modern social environments. The human has been provided by evolution with instincts, which causes him to seek both training and education, as he or she is a competitive social animal. He is quite capable of logic, reason, and intelligence when he chooses to be so, provided that he learns and follows the necessary discipline and rigid methodology. Even then, he is instinctive in his goals. His instincts provide the direction, drive and power behind his every action.

Moreover, a section of scientists argue that nothing has remained instinctive in humans anymore as we all have been into this society and human made cultures since long. They believe, all instinctive drives of humans are not purely instinctive but coloured, shaped and conditioned by cultural benchmarks of action and behaviour.

However, there is no conflict in the two observations. No doubt, humanity has been impacted by two very powerful forces – nature and nurture; that is their pure instincts and cultural sense of appropriate and righteousness. This is evident from the fact that most humans are split between what their instincts drive them to and what their cultural upbringing leads them to. That is why often, a person would say – I am confused as whether I should listen to the call of my heart or that of my mind. An average person believes that there always are two calls on decision-making about an issue. One is from heart, which he or she believes is his or her gut feeling, which most people call visceral. Second voice comes from the mind, which most believe is the call of a culture within a person.

There is this preference of heart or visceral choice over the mind call as most believe, heart is where righteousness is, as average person believes, mind is devilish and it usually orchestrates complications, whereas heart is simple, pure and mostly right. This is populist psychology playing its part in everyone’s life and life-living choices. People love to listen to their hearts; that means most prefer to have the way their instincts lead them to. There is no doubt about the preference as, we already discussed how evolution has installed in us very powerful drives, which are so wired to the idea of survival that most of us lead ourselves the way our instinctive drive takes us to. Scientists say, even the culturally learnt behaviour finally becomes part of the instincts and that is why, it is accepted that humans are largely instinctive.

This works out as double trouble for humanity. Human mind mechanism has this wired facility to make most actions and behaviour as auto-mode, action-reaction causality. This is the reason most of us are in a perpetual state of drift and flux, which makes us auto-generate series of action-behaviour, the utility and worth of which we seldom think in a receptive-mode and retrospective thinking. That is why loneliness is some facility for us, which makes us sit focused over our auto-mode decision-making instincts, to assess about their true and right utility and worth.

Scientists maintain that modern human developed intellect in parallel with other physical and neural traits. Modern humans have risen well over evolutionary instincts and they have this intellectual duty to create and prolong a good culture, where there is intellectual control over instinctive drives, for larger wellness of the society. Only through the application of the intellect, utilizing experience, education and training, as control mechanisms over the raw instincts, appropriate cultural behaviour can be obtained.

Scientists say that most human drives are without conscience. They do not care about long-range effects. It seeks only immediate gratification. Modern knowledge of brain realism also accepts that consciousness is very localized. It instinctively being a reactive mode facility cares for only short term utility and worth.

If conscience exists, it exists in the intellect of the human. To be human is to allow the intellect to preside over the utility and worth of every important action-behaviour over the dimensions of time, space, people and processes. It is this necessary intellectual control of the instincts which makes a culture successful. We see contemporary cultures in drift and flux because majority of people are behaving true to their instincts, without much intellectual control and conscience. And, this intellectual control is a learned function and is called self-discipline, to over-ride less desirable instinctive behaviour.

That is why in most advanced contemporary cultures, where liberalism has unleashed uncontrolled instinctive drives of humanity, sans any intellectual self-control, the governments of the day have to spend huge moneys on police, jails and other emergency measures. Most modern cultures are failed cultures as the level of self-control in people in personal and societal spheres are very little and diminishing fast.

One such powerful instinctive drive of humanity, which has shattered most modern liberal cultures, because of ever reducing intellectual self-control is sex. This over-encompassing sex drive has lost its evolutionary role way back and it surely looks like an obstructive vestige of the obsolete evolution. Still, it dominates the human thinking and worldview in biggest possible way, overriding even